I want to have sex soon. I am of legal age. Me and my bf have been together for almost a year. I just want to know how much it will hurt and if it does hurt should I get him to stop? Also how can i make myself less nervous? It is his first time 2 and I was jsut wondering if there are any troubles me might have? Will he have trouble getting it in? Will it feel weird but good for him the first time? Any tips that will make it easier and enjoyable for the both of us will be greatly appreciated. I just want to know so im prepared.
2006-09-29 15:42:04 · 9 answers · asked by joiejoie 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Dont worry, I was the same way before my first time. Its normal to be nervous and unfortunately it does hurt a little the first time for some girls, so if its too much for you just ask him to go real real slow. (Thatll probly feel real real good for him) I really dont know if it will hurt him, but i doubt it. Just make sure you are ready, you said that you have been going out for a year so it sounds like you are ready, just remember to have fun. He might have trouble getting it in since its your first time, but everyone is different. My advice is just go real real slow, that feels real good and once you guys start doing it all the time, you will notice that he goes real hard and fast (some guys), so cherish the sloooowwness hahah. Well good luck!
2006-09-29 15:51:03 · answer #1 · answered by sandee 2 · 8⤊ 0⤋
you should be fully arouse by his foreplay to such an extent that you are fully lubricated/wet n naturally loosen your vaginal muscle, he has to be slow n gentle, you should be relax n thinking of how much he love you n you love him too, choose a right place with suitable ambient , of course it hurt the first time but just a little, stop him then continue with him kissing/licking your nipples, caressing your body until you feel comfortable then go again, position for the both of you is important preferably with you lying down facing him with your knees up for better penetration. if you are not ready to have baby then practice safe sex, this would reduces your worry of pregnancy n diseases hence off the nervous ! he would not be able to last long since this is going to be his first time too, both of you do required some experience/practice to be able to fully enjoy love making ! but if you can wait til married then it would be great !
2006-09-30 20:32:06 · answer #2 · answered by ng 5 · 12⤊ 2⤋
The key here is to be real wet. If you're not there by yourself use a good lubricant. Have him work it in to get you aroused. Then when you are ready, let him slide it in. He probably won't last very long the first time, but you will get the idea of what it's like! Each time he will last longer and longer. Have fun, laugh and enjoy!
2006-09-29 23:09:11 · answer #3 · answered by wonderingunhappily 1 · 10⤊ 2⤋
Sandee is right with her answer. The only thing I can add is make sure you are well lubricated. (natural or the bottle kind) That will help keep your first time from being painful. Also use some kind of birth control.
2006-09-29 23:02:18 · answer #4 · answered by Kat 2 · 11⤊ 0⤋
everything will be fine just make sure you are ready and take your time. make a good mood setting and both of you take yer time and enjoy it. Just be comfortable and go slow it wont hurt.
2006-09-29 22:49:45 · answer #5 · answered by fastloudfzr 1 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Ensure that u have a good foreplay session
2006-09-29 22:56:49 · answer #6 · answered by Rajat B 2 · 29⤊ 0⤋
Usually sex only hurts the first time, if you are ready to enjoy it the pain is well worth it!!!
2006-09-30 10:51:21 · answer #7 · answered by Sonny Boy 3 · 6⤊ 8⤋
Everybody will have a little pain for the first time, Anyway there must be a first time, You both take your own time, have sufficient foreplay (kissing, fondling breasts use hands both get wet and sufficiently lubricated), slowly slowly and insertion should be last. Once orgasm finished both will be exhausted. My last advice is WAIT until you get married. Nothing like sex after marriage.
2006-09-29 23:46:31 · answer #8 · answered by Gopal 3 · 29⤊ 9⤋
You better both think about using condoms. Just because it will be your first time, it doesn't mean you won't get pregnant. And I don't think either of you are ready to deal with that.
How about waiting until you're married?
2006-09-29 23:05:51 · answer #9 · answered by conetoe 3 · 89⤊ 43⤋