would u allow your son or daughter 13 yrs old. go to a teen party, which is a club for 5 hrs. from 7 to 12. or do u think they are too young and i shouldn't enforce it. my kids wanna go and i am scared because when i was younger my parents wouldn't let me go and i used to sneak out. i want my kids to grow up right.
2006-09-29 15:31:14 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
from the viewpoint of a teen:
what sort of "teen club" is this? Are there likely to be 18+ ppl there? 16+? 15+? If thats the case, I wouldnt let your 13yo kid, ESPECIALLY A DAUGHTER, go to one of these places. If theres a live band, she will probably get killed in the mosh pit.
Also, we older teens (im 16) dont want to have to watch out for a bunch of 13yo kids running around below us. We jsut want to have a good time, and unless she has some older friends that would be happy to bring her (girls who are more of the age group 15-16 for example) that you trust her with, then i dont advise it.
2006-09-30 06:07:52 · answer #1 · answered by trainboy765 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you dont feel comfortable about it then i would say dont let them go.
they may get mad at you but you are doing it for thier own good, not because your are trying to be an @rse to them.
i commend the fact that you are willing to not let your children go for fear of thier safety. that is what i call responsibility
nowadays there are so many parents that just let thier children do what they want so they dont have to hear them bicker on and on about why they cant go or do this.
as for the other ones say that what if they sneak out?
just make sure to have a little alarm thing near so if they try it you will know or tell them the consequences if you were to find out they disobeyed your decision
2006-09-30 06:28:39 · answer #2 · answered by Jen L-Baby #1 due Nov 15, 2010 ! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are too young to be going out to a club. Any parties that they go to need adult supervision. Put your foot down. If they try to sneak out punish them. You are the parent and their poor choices shouldn't change the standards you have set for them.
2006-09-29 22:55:09 · answer #3 · answered by wendysorangeblossoms 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not allow my kids to go to these clubs. they are not safe. have you checked the place out? being responsible has nothing to do with it. I think going ther is just asking for trouble. if you cant decide then GO THERE CHECK IT OUT! be informed. I have raised my 4 children all responsible adults now, and now raising my husbands 3 teens. I have been there. Its tough to be the bad guy but sometimes you just have to..Its your job.
2006-09-30 00:51:29 · answer #4 · answered by answer lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kids have no business going to those parties i ever went to anything like that and i never felt the need to sneak out if you are paying attention to what is going on in your home yours won't either
2006-09-29 22:35:59 · answer #5 · answered by megamom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should allow them to go. its because you may not be sure that they will also sneak out like you. and do u think that if you dont allow them to go, they will grow alright?
they get to know all the adult things from anywhere and better than from those places which you cant even think of.
the more u restrict, the more adulterated they will get.
2006-09-30 03:47:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you wouldn't want your kid to think you don't trust the choices they make tell them before they go that you have given them a that little voice in there head and that you trust them to make the right choices while they are there and i bet everything will be OK most kids do things that are wrong because they think no one cares or they have it in there head that they cant make good choices
2006-09-29 23:25:06 · answer #7 · answered by alysiac78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let them go, but set a curfew to leave early.
Keep in mind, you (and I) DID sneak out. Don't be too strict, or that's just what you'll get too.
2006-09-29 22:56:03 · answer #8 · answered by mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i no u said that this is for parents only but i couldn't help myself. Okay when i was 13 (last year) my mom let me go to a lock in. a lock in is where teens go from 9pm to 7am. but my mom trusts me and no's i wont do anything wrong...
2006-09-30 00:03:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u noe ur kids responsible and have such good grades in school and u noe and trust their friend. the party should be closely monitored by a responsible adult den it should be ok.
2006-09-29 22:42:37 · answer #10 · answered by mighty i 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋