...when he actually has an apartment to stay and is renting it because he is my neighbour in the same apartment complex that he has sat in front of. I just wonder why he does that because when he does that, it seems like he doesn't have a place to stay and is homeless or something when he actually has a place to stay. Does he not care or value having a place to stay? He doesn't have to sit outside. He can stay in his apartment but he doesn't. It seems like he always like to sit outside like at those chairs in the center courtyard of the apartment complex. I saw him sitting outside the apartment complex in an area not for people to sit anyways. Can anyone explain that? Do you agree that he doesn't care or value that he has an apartment to stay?
2006-09-29 15:30:24 · 12 answers · asked by Raines 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Do you think there is something wrong with him because where he sits in front of the apartment complex is not for people to sit there anyways. It's the same as a library is just for people to borrow and read books and not for shouting or something else. I wouldn't like to do what he does at all because I like to stay in my apartment instead of being outside!
2006-09-29 15:38:27 · update #1
Why is he lonely then? He has always sat in the center courtyard of the apartment complex and other people have sat there with him talking. Just don't understand why he would sit outside the apartment complex. I just think he doesn't care or value that he has a place to stay and don't care about having the flow of traffic pass him by. He often looks at me when I pass by him. I don't know why and I am not interested in talking to him either. Do you know why he looks at me when I pass by him?
2006-09-29 15:47:44 · update #2
Fine, maybe they like it. But, I wouldn't like to sit outside because outside is a public place and not like in your own apartment.
2006-09-29 16:00:22 · update #3
NO, I don't agree! He looks at you because he sees the disapproving looks on your face, can feel the contempt that you so obviously have for him. What business is it of yours that he does sit out there?
He lives there and has a right to stay there 24/7 if he wants to. Is he bothering people, harassing them, flashing, making obscene remarks, hitting, spitting at them? No, he is sitting there minding his own business - a lesson that YOU should take!
Why should he stay in his apartment, gee, does the sight of an old, handicapped person bother your esthetics?
You have far too much time on your hands and need to get a life - that gentleman HAS one, and is CONTENT with HIS! It is apparent that you are NOT with YOURS. LEAVE HIM ALONE!
2006-10-05 22:23:38 · answer #1 · answered by midnightlydy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If other people sit talking with him and the apartment management hasn't made them leave, maybe it really isn't forbidden to sit in this area that is "not for sitting". Many older people like to spend time outdoors. It probably hasn't occurred to him that narrow minded people think that anyone who sits outside must be out there because they have no place to live.
I am young and my handicap is not visible but I sometimes like being outside in the fresh air. Once in a while, I even get a little claustrophobic inside. In my old neighborhood, lots of us would sit on porches and front steps and even chairs on the sidewalk. It never occurred to us that there was anything wrong with it and as long as no one blocked the sidewalk or anything the police never had a problem with it either.
2006-09-29 15:55:26 · answer #2 · answered by Kuji 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately we live in a world that is very hectic and doesn't take time to "Stop and Smell the Flowers". We are sooo caught up in our everyday routines that we don't realize how the simple things in life do make a difference. We don't sit and listen to our inner thoughts and think about how we want to live our lives. We live in a life of many noises and distractions. We don't live in our life when it is quiet. We have music on or watching television and always feeling the need to go and go. I have walked out my front door and realized "Geesh I don't spend enough time outside". When I spend time outside I feel more calm and I am intouch with myself and have more direction and purpose. It is wonderful that you are stopping your life long enough to be interested in someone elses life. He like everyone else has interests in their lives. His interest is the outdoors and living a life of direction. I bet one thing he would just love for you to do is to come out talk and sit with him. It is amazing what you can learn from other people.
2006-09-29 15:38:07 · answer #3 · answered by lovelyandcarefree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wants to sit out front and watch the world go by it is none of your business. Why don't you get your own life instead of worrying about what he is doing.
2006-09-29 15:36:13 · answer #4 · answered by taurus 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he thinks the excitement of seeing all the cars and people scurrying around beats staring at the walls in his apartment. Wouldn't you?
2006-09-29 15:33:39 · answer #5 · answered by Rich Z 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whats wrong with you? You sound like one of those people who don't like leaving their houses you should check in with a mental health expert I think there may be something wrong with you!
2006-09-30 00:14:23 · answer #6 · answered by Star of Florida 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him alone you will understand when you get old like when you were a kid did you ever lie on your street and not care who drove by or see kids do it today sounds like you need to get a life if all you do is watch old men
2006-09-29 15:36:32 · answer #7 · answered by rradboys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
loneliness is an beast that cannot be understood by anyone who has not endured it
i think he just wants to feel something; to be seen, not to be cooped up somewhere as if he doesn't exist
2006-09-29 15:36:53 · answer #8 · answered by Can I Be Your Pet? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he is just happy to be alive and enjoying seeing the sky. why not ask him. maybe he just wants someone to talk to
2006-09-29 15:34:18 · answer #9 · answered by rwl_is_taken 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he's a lonely old man, go to chat with him and comfort him.
2006-09-29 15:36:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋