anyone going thru same exp or planning to go ahead with inter-rel marriage? would love to hear ur piece of mind on this. In my case,its a hindu-muslim issue,but others are most welcomed.
2006-09-29 15:17:39 · 17 answers · asked by julie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
decide BEFORE marriage how children will be reared and in what faith. if you both can agree to disagree personally great but kids change things
2006-09-29 15:20:09 · answer #1 · answered by rwl_is_taken 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not against it. Obviously both parties need to sort out the religious aspect and what religion the children will follow before marrying.. But heres my point. There is so much divorce and unhappines in marriages that are from the same religion that a happy marriage (and isnt that the object of the exercise anyway?) has just a great chance of happening inter-faith than with same religions.
2006-09-29 15:22:19 · answer #2 · answered by analyst 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister (Catholic) married a Methodist--marriage didn't last, but it wasn't because of religious issues. On Saturday nights they went to her church for Mass and then on Sunday morning they went to his church. Holidays were no problem because luckily enough events were at different times so they could go to both. Before the marriage they agreed to raise the children in her church. One of their problems that ended the marriage was his family didn't approve of Catholics and made disparaging remarks constantly. Both remarried in their own faiths and are happier now.
Cokie Roberts (I believe she's with NBC--I may be wrong because I don't watch much tv) and her husband are of different religions. One is Catholic and the other is Jewish. I've read several articles where they discuss this issue and do a great job handling it in a mature fashion--especially when raising their children.
When I got married a very long time ago, I decided I wouldn't marry anyone who wasn't my religion so that narrowed the field of possibilities. Turns out I was wrong in that it didn't bind us together for the rest of our lives. It was easy, however, raising a family, because we brought the same values and expectations to the marriage.
I think the key to any marriage with regards to religion is to talk about it before you're married. Know how that person feels on stem cell research, abortion, contraception, whatever else may be of potential difference of opinion. The best thing is to get pre-marital counseling from religious leaders from both sides to explain what is expected in the faith. Communication is really important.
Best wishes.
2006-09-29 15:30:02 · answer #3 · answered by goldie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your religion is any way important to you it will become a major issue. Marriage is extremely difficult and there are times you will not like your spouse, but going in to marriage with a difference as major as religion is foolish. You are just asking for trouble. When you get through the honeymoon phase of marriage you need to have core things in common to keep your marriage together and religion is on of them.
2006-09-29 15:42:03 · answer #4 · answered by nicky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The christian faith believes a christian should only marry a christian, it's speaks of being" unevenly yoked". Your interests will differ and often one will give way to the other. You speak of Muslim and Hindu combining. I would think it is a disaster waiting to happen. As time passes and children come on the scene the Muslim will insist on the children becoming Muslim, no brainer. All the promises and what have you before the marriage will never be kept, don't get swept up by the " love of the moment". When two Christians take the vows of marriage they do so in the presence of God and God's word says the two shall become one and let no man take them apart. I would encourage you to search out Christianity before considering the vows of marriage, hope this helps you.
2006-09-29 15:31:58 · answer #5 · answered by Steiner 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everything depends on agreement before u get married how u suppose to practice ur religion to god as long everybody is no cotrolling and accepts evrybodys rights is ok but sometimes things change down the road so we have to comprise it's not written in the stone who is right or wrong bless u with love
2006-09-29 15:30:47 · answer #6 · answered by george p 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am white, my husband mexican. I am baptist, my husband catholic. Marriage is about love, respect, trust, and many other things. But to me our racial/religious differences have never been a problem for either us or our families. We have compromised and are raising our daughter to be involved in and enjoy all aspects of her heritage.
2006-09-29 15:30:03 · answer #7 · answered by nickivalle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's fine if you communicate in advance about whether or not you both will continue your worship. I am Evangleical, my husband is Mormon and we are doing fine. Also his parents are Southern Baptist and Mormom and they have been married for 28 years.
2006-09-29 15:21:31 · answer #8 · answered by homedews24u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it.....if you cannot get married because you have a differant religion then your partner, i am pretty sure that you shouldn't get married.....but if u two have two differant religions, try to find a way to except his, and he except yours
2006-09-29 15:21:12 · answer #9 · answered by tjd_purplecrazy_84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am catholic and by husband is orthodox......we havent had any problems with our difference in belief......we agreed to have our kids christened othodox.....neither of us are real followers of our religion......
if one or both of you are full on with your beliefs then i think as muslim are a very strict religion that it could cause complications.....make sure you have discussed your differences and that you can both agree to disagree on some issues also discuss how you will raise your children....good luck
2006-09-29 15:21:56 · answer #10 · answered by askaway 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋