Hi All;) .. Why do some people take love for granted?;)?

Question

This is a general question..
I am just wondering??? ..Opinions???

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Thanks, for answering in advance!;D

Have a nice weekend!;) ..I have a bad day, but it will pass....
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Answer 1

Sorry about your day. We all have them, but they always suck. Hope the next many are way better.

People take love for granted who have it because they are spoiled. If you ever loved and lost, then you don't take it for granted ever again.

This is even true if the love is just the little love of your good dog. I am very thankful that I have two good little dogs who love me without reserve. I would go crazy and stop being desperate if I had the love of a good man half as much as these little four legged fans of mine.

Answer 2

A more burning question is, why do some people consider love to be offensive?

Ever notice how that some people are offended if an unattractive person asks them out, or otherwise indicates that he admires her? The ugly person might be the nicest guy in the world, but if he is a nerd, or overweight, then he is considered as evil for having the nerve to fall in love.

And some people seem to make threats of reporting someone for sexual harassment simply because the person is ugly, not because he actually did anything consciously wrong or immoral (look at some of the advice here on Y!A).

Why do people HATE people who love them? Hum ....

Answer 3

Sorry about the bad day. Alas and alack.
You ask about love - which is different than a specific love.
a) They get caught up in other emotions such as greed (long hours/crime).
b) They are ensnared by the spiderwebs of personal gratification such as alcohol/drugs/"freedom"/pornography.
c) They presume it will always be there and do not realize it needs to be nurutured like a rare and precious orchid.
d) They are guilt ridden over a personal failure or sin and cannot get past it.
e) They have forgotten how to love themselves so they no longer remember what it feels like to be loved.

Answer 4

My first thought was the other has not love in them. To 'take' as 'granted' or for 'granted' is the same as ?? I don't know what that means. Perhaps you are trying to say the other values your person less than their own self (person). Perhaps it is a different love that has no agony or pain, friendship love. Some people do not feel the need for lasting reciprocated social commitment, i.e. marriage. That is a different love of a greater value and higher risk.
Some interesting reading:

http://www.marxists.org/reference/archive/hegel/works/ph/phc2aa.htm


http://www.marxists.org/reference/archive/hegel/works/pr/prfamily.htm#PR161
§ 161

Marriage, as the immediate type of ethical relationship, contains first, the moment of physical life; and since marriage is a substantial tie, the life involved in it is life in its totality, i.e. as the actuality of the race and its life-process. But, secondly, in self-consciousness the natural sexual union — a union purely inward or implicit and for that very reason existent as purely external — is changed into a union on the level of mind, into self-conscious love.


Addition: Marriage is in essence an ethical tie. Formerly, especially in most systems of natural law, attention was paid only to the physical side of marriage or to its natural character. Consequently, it was treated only as a sex relationship, and this completely barred the way to its other characteristics. This is crude enough, but it is no less so to think of it as only a civil contract, and even Kant does this. On this view, the parties are bound by a contract of mutual caprice, and marriage is thus degraded to the level of a contract for reciprocal use. A third view of marriage is that which bases it on love alone, but this must be rejected like the other two, since love is only a feeling and so is exposed in every respect to contingency, a guise which ethical life may not assume. Marriage, therefore, is to be more precisely characterised as ethico-legal (rechtlich sittliche) love, and this eliminates from marriage the transient, fickle, and purely subjective aspects of love.

Answer 5

I think the reason many people take love for granted is because it is just so simple. Love is Love, nothing more. Of course, you can go into depth about it, but really, it's LOVE. And when you're in love with someone, and they're in love with you....how amazingly simplistic is that? People think that love will always be unconditional. That nothing can ever change, nothing you do or say or feel can ever unchange the love. But it does. Things happen, and the love can sometimes dissapear. I think people are just sometimes too in love to realize that things happen. Because when you find that true love, you believe that NOTHING bad can happen, nothing either of you do can break it. But people take love for granted, and it happens.

Answer 6

I think why some people take love for granted is because they can get it so easy with little effort so in return the love they give towards others may not be as great as the love they were given.

Answer 7

No they dont, if you had this experience about people taking love for granted it doesnt mean everyone had the same experience, love is reciprocal , it is a give and take affair thus it can never be granted it is always expecting ..

Answer 8

actually i dont know they just dont no how special it is the only people that take it for granted are the people that get like a new boyfriend/girlfriend every week

Answer 9

people don't take love for granted...what they take for granted is compassion, compromise and respect. Love has nothing to do with what others do; rather, it makes the person feel happy...

Answer 10

I think some people are insecure and dont really trust that love is in front of them.