I'm divorced as of 5 yrs. I'm in a relationship w/my current BF. We've had alot of ups and downs the past 3 yrs. He's gone to a strip bar and hooked up w/stripper and called her 3-5x/day for 6 mos. to 1 year. I caught him by getting a copy of his cell bill. I still ain't over that one. He can be controlling, wanting to know where I'm at and how long it takes me to do things, etc. He has such a nice side to him and that's when I get messed up. I'm 49 yrs old and don't really like the idea of starting over. My ex-husband is still in love w/me, and I do love him and care very much about, just don't think I'm in-love w/him. He's totally opposite of my BF. Smaller build, used to drink alot, but doesn't anymore because he developed chronic pancreatitis a couple of months ago. He'd do pretty anything for me and is very secure in his job and what he wants. I don't know why I find it hard to go back to him, I would have it made. I'm so depressed because I don't know what to do.
2006-09-29 14:58:34 · 13 answers · asked by jeep 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The reason you don't know what to do is that you have left yourself only two options--NEITHER of which is the right answer.
You have moved on past your ex-husband, and if you feel no love for him, you should not string him along. He deserves true love in his life and it doesn't sound like you can really give it. He probably only looks good to you because of how miserable your current boyfriend is. Leave the POS boyfriend immediately. But don't run to the ex. You may not like the sound of starting over, but you must if you want real happiness. It is out there waiting for you. But you have to let it happen. Make yourself available.
2006-09-29 15:44:01 · answer #1 · answered by sublimetranscendental 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump them both. You don't ever want to revisit an expired relationship. There was a reason it expired. As for beau number two, he sounds like a real sleazeball. Why not just be single and focus on making yourself happy instead of looking for it in someone else? Make a committment to remain single for one year and spend that year doing everything you always wanted to do for yourself. You can still find some male pals to hang out with or date casually.
2006-09-29 15:24:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Going back to an ex husband is just too undignified. You'll regret it. I wouldn't consider your age the end of the road. Age is just a number. There are tons of men that date women in their late 40s and above. You're still in the game. My grandmother found the love of her life in her 60s and a lot of money came with it.
2006-09-29 15:03:02 · answer #3 · answered by martin h 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your bf wants to know where you are and when your coming home cause hes cheating on you . Needs to know your eta. as far as the ex hubby goes. there was a reason you left in the first place. has that changed? if so , and you still love him. give him another chance.
2006-09-29 15:04:13 · answer #4 · answered by joy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WAIT. your bf is the one going to a strip club or your ex? that makes the choice pretty clear. if it was your boyfriend going to the strip bar then you shouldve dumped him then anyway. if its your ex husband then definitely dont go back to him.
2006-09-29 15:02:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to learn to be happy with just you before you can have a relationship with your ex. As for the loser your with, kick his butt to the curb!
2006-09-29 15:00:48 · answer #6 · answered by Barbara G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl you don't need to go back to your ex and you need to get rid of your current so call man please you deserve better let him go and concentrate on yourself for a while
2006-09-29 15:02:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would dump both of them..it seems your looking for mr right and the right one is you and come one...look at it you total a woman and that gives you rights and more
2006-09-29 15:04:55 · answer #8 · answered by sandras77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do your ex a favor ... stay with your current b/f.
2006-09-29 15:00:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
and the drama never ends
2006-09-29 15:00:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋