i try everyday to make people around me happy fix their problems and its starting to mess me up at night when?

Question

i think of my own...

Answer 1

i know it happens to me too, at night you just lay there awake and thing whats wrong with you and all the things you could do or be better. I know what i do is when those thoughts creep into my mind i set goals in my head that might help me feel better, not a lot but enough to acomplisht the next day, each night this happens i get better at it, and always think about who might have it worse, and how they live each dya to the fullest!

Answer 2

It is somewhat conceited to think that your role is to solve everyone else's probems. People get a rush out of being the local problem solver. In most cases, you are not really solving their problems but just getting off on feeling needed. Sometimes, people that do this are simply avoiding their own problems. Take a break from this and figure out 1) what you are getting from this behavior and 2) what you are avoiding by engaging in this behavior. Best of luck.

Answer 3

I know how you feel.... I tend to do that and at the end of the day feel like how you do.... Its so easy how to advice people but at the end of the day you are still stuck yourself.. So who do you turn to?

My advice is continue to do the good work....We all need people like you and at the same time you also need someone to talk to... Just like how people need you to fix their problem, you also need an outlet to vent that frustrations or a listening ear to your problems... Find someone to talk to and you will feel better... We are all humans and we all need one another... Don't bottled up your feelings cos there's only so much we can hold on and just like an inflate tire, the more air we try to inflate, the more it gets bigger and sooner or later it will burst.... Just like problems... the more we contained in ourselves the more bigger it gets and sooner or later, if we learnt not to let go of the problems, that is where the breakdown will occur...

I hope that you will continue to still help people cos they all need you and at the same time I wish you all the best too... :)

Answer 4

A wise woman once said "Focusing on other peoples' problems is a lovely way to avoid confronting your own." It's nice to try to help other people, UNLESS you're using it as a way to avoid your own life. In that case, your motives aren't really so much to help them as to hide from yourself, which keeps you from doing the growing you need to do, creates stress in your life, and leaves less and less of your soul truly available for other people, until you're just going through the motions.

Also, if you focus on other people to the exclusion of yourself, you can prevent them from growing, too.

There's a reason the airline hostess tells you to put on your own oxygen mask before helping others. If you drain yourself dry helping everyone else, what will they do when you run dry? You're the only source of you there is, and you have to manage that resource responsibly, so you can be there for people who need you when it's really important. That means taking care of yourself. Run forever with all of your energy and focus going out and nothing coming in, and you'll run out. It's time to take care of yourself!

Answer 5

You cant fix everything. And what you consider to be a problem may not be seen as a problem to them . You need to worry about yourself and only help if your friends and family ask you for help. Otherwise it may seem like you are intruding where you aren't needed.

Now relax and have a happy life.

Answer 6

It is not your responsiblity to fix everyone's problems. You are not giving yourself time or energy to deal with your problems and it is tearing you apart. I know you want to help everyone but just try helping your closest friend(s). Don't be afraid to share your troubles with others- it will amke the load lighter

Answer 7

Try to fix one other problem per week.

Answer 8

try not to get to involved in every ones problems i done that and now i have such bad nervous i don't sleep that much at night

Answer 9

it helps you sometimes to be there for others when they need you the most but hard when no-ones there for you when you need them the most....putting your problems aside and dealing with others first will eventually eat you up if you dont deal with it...you need to start to be for your own not just deal with it later...put yourself first for once.....be for you...

Answer 10

I use to be the same way. but it is time for you to let go and live, turn it over to God. Take it to God and let it go, who better to give it to, try it it works.