I have never seen a married couple not get divorced. Every person I have ever known who has gotton married has gotton a divorce. I sometimes wonder if the divorce rate is higher than the 50% that they talk about in the news. Wouldnt it be better if society just did away with marriage and just had people live together?
2006-09-29 14:40:05 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
my parents
my husbands parents
my brother, my other brother and my other brother, his son and wife, my brother in law and his wife, my sister in law and her husband, my aunts and uncles, my cousins
my friends (lots of them)
my point is,..... it's way too bad you have had this experience.... in MY experience of all the hundreds of people I know, only a small percentage of them are divorced, and I would venture to say that the majority of them have stable happy marriages....
so no, I don't think it would be expedient for society to be rid of marriage.... marriage doesn't cause divorce, people do - whether you are married or not but living together, there are always trials and tribulations
people split whether they are married or not
not being married simply makes the physical split easier because there is no commitment - it doesn't do a darn thing for the betterment of society though - as people are just as messed up
2006-09-29 14:45:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-20 18:30:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course there are happy marriages! The confusion about "happy" marriages, is that NO marriage is happy every single day! You just hope that when you look back, you remember more good times than bad.
Marriage is just a word. If you are in a committed relationship, then it is basically the same thing! So, whether we have "marriage" or not, people will still decide to stay together or not, based on what is best for them!
I am particularly jaded about this right now, but in my family (parents, brothers, in-laws... etc.), my husband and myself will be the first to divorce. So I think the 50% divorce rate is just an average. Some people experience divorce more than others.
2006-09-29 15:12:49 · answer #3 · answered by summer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, there is such a thing as a happy marriage ! My parents were together for 45 years when my mom passed away !! They had 9 kids and we all turned out great !! The key is communication !! Don't hold it in , afraid that you are going to make the other person mad !! You are a team, which stands for : together, everyone achieves more !!
2006-09-29 14:49:23 · answer #4 · answered by paula 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can have a happy marriage...but it takes some give and take to keep it going. Too many couples go into marriage with the idea that everything will be great and that Love is all you need.....BULL....love is GREAT but you also need support....emotional...financially...ect. Do married couples fight...yes...do they sometimes think there partner is a door knob...yes.....do married couples sometimes think why did I marry this person....yes. Its how you answer those questions when they come up that makes a marriage. Is what we are fighting about a hill I want to die on? Could it be that we just don't see eye to eye on this and maybe we are both kind of right?
Is he/she a door knob....maybe but they are your door knob.....why did you marry this person....because I love them.
2006-09-29 14:54:31 · answer #5 · answered by oldman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have lots of relatives who never got a divorce. My husband and I are in a happy marriage. No, society would be pure hell if we did away with marriage and had everyone shacking. Good marriage takes premarital counselling, not settling until the right match for you comes along, work and committment.
2006-09-29 14:46:46 · answer #6 · answered by Sleek 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure there is a thing such as a happy marriage but it is one that has to be really worked at. I was married for twenty years we would fight and make up but that is a marriage. people that live together fight and makeup to. Sure we wanted to kill each other sometimes but if he were alive to day we would still be married. My parents have been married for over 49yrs. They fight but they still love each other so did my great grandparents they were married for over 70yrs I never once heard them fight just pick at each other. One died and the other followed not long after.
2006-09-29 14:46:37 · answer #7 · answered by liza 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe there is such a thing, yes it is really hard to find, but it is out there. My Grandparents are celebrating their 50th in febuary. My dad's grandparents we together for 57 years then the wife died and the hosband died shortly after, not becuase he was ill but because he really couldn't live with out her. I come from a divorsed family so I know the other side of it too, all we can do is hope.
2006-09-29 14:44:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes there is, but its a matter of communication and above all, have faith in God. God has to be the most important guy in the relationship, you have to make it work, not let things happen. My parents have been married for more than 30 year, my brother for 10... so if you have Faith in God everything will work out fine.
2006-09-29 14:56:29 · answer #9 · answered by Juan V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive been married for 24 years....what Ive found is that if you learn to communicate honestly, and just consider your own situation, not comparing it to others, you will and can just be OK. As one ages, things evolve...and change...your emotional needs change, and what you expect changes too....people just have to accept that fact and deal with it. My suggestion is if it works for you, then great...Don't expect the societal norm to be your own, make your own. If you define what you want and need. and your partner is good with it...than that's all that's important, and is what makes a happy marriage...Just an opinion..
2006-09-29 14:46:39 · answer #10 · answered by zeakster01 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋