When is the right time to walk away?

Question

It's not a matter of not loving one another it's more a matter of 5 years of one thing after another. 5 years of feeling last and feeling first 5 years of kids and exes 1 year of marriage and still feeling like I am living in someone elses life instead of sharing it. Feeling like I have to give more than I am getting and I never give expecting to get in return in a relationship only a fool would.
But I need to know I matter as much as he does to me that he feels me in his soul like I feel him in mine. I feel clouded and long for the cut and dried. The only hurt feelings aren't mine I have hurt his too becoming distant not wanting to put it out there one the line. What should I do?

Answer 1

Lots of hurt, lots of loneliness, lots of lostness. I'm sorry to read of so much pain.
Have you shared this posting w/ him...perhaps read it to him and asked him how he felt?
Before you walk, I'd share this with a pastor or counselor. There are somethings here walking won't solve and staying may heal.

Answer 2

I do not believe there is any "right" time to walk away. There are situations that make it the time to go, but you have not provided any information -- I am thinking possibly because you are tired and there is sooooo much over a period of time.

Whatever your situation is -- if you are married, unless he is abusive, have you tried marriage counseling? Keep in mind, if the both of you do not want it to work, it will be difficult (hard and painful) to carry by yourself. When you believe you have tried everything you know, you have prayed, you have sought the assistance of a counselor -- and nothing has changed over a period of time, then try the trial separation. After a few months, your head should be more clear one way or the other. Who knows, maybe it will be a wake up call for your spouse.

Keep in mind -- sometimes after a trial separation, you may find you never want to go back to the marriage. Or you may have had time to sort things out and decided that you cannot live without one another. Either way -- you can think more clearly when you are not in a battle zone.

Answer 3

When there is absolutely nothing anyone can do to save the relationship.

If one person is absolutley done,
there is nothing that can change their mind there is no hope of reconciliation.
You should try relationship therapy first,
just to give it a fair try.

Answer 4

When you feel you have done or tried everything possible to make whatever it is work. When you are at the point of maddness? When the other person shows no care for you or your feelings

Answer 5

when the relationship isn't worth or cannot be saved. but both people really have to be willing to try at fixing a broken relationship. it won't just happen on it's own. everything is a give and take.

Answer 6

if you are being abused in anyway..right now..if you are not being abused...wait until you save up enouh money or have other resources in place that you can rely on before you just up and leave. After you have tried and tried again to work it out but it is getting you nowhere..it is time to leave but not until you have somepalce to go and not until you know you will be ok on your own.

Answer 7

When you know in your heart you gave and tried to work things out. But your mate didn't meat you half ways. Remember life is to short to be unhappy..

Answer 8

When you know you had enough of whatever they are doing. And you know they are not willing to improve on the relationship. You are physical and emotionally tried of all the maddens.

Answer 9

Before the brick comes hurling

Answer 10

walk away from what??
your dog
your cat
your boyfriend
your husband
your t.v
your cell
your i-pod
your chocolate
your refridgerator
your underwear
your school
your work
your sister
your aunt
your cousin

thanks for the points.. lol