i'm ok when i wake up, go to school/work and think about what i'd like to accomplish. or when i go out with my friend, go to the movies, read a book & so on...but when i get home, in the afternoon and in the middle of the night (if i can't fall asleep) i feel really depressed. i so miss having someone in my life and it just doesn't happen. so how do i deal with being single and feel satisfied about being alone. (please don't write about going out and dating different people 'cause you can't force yourself into falling in love.) you can fool your mind but not your heart.
thanks.
2006-09-29 14:04:13 · 13 answers · asked by Eden 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Hi....
There is a big difference in being lonely, and being alone. A person must be able to be comfortable with themselves, at peace with who they are in order to contribute to a stable relationship. Many people make a huge blunder, or a series of blunders, because they think they need another person to feel complete. It has been said, "just when you are NOT looking for love, love makes an appearance". My advice is to be patient. You have a lifetime to discover your true self. It does not become just because you wish it to. Love comes to everyone eventually, and it is up to us to be discerning that we are in fact in love with another, and that other is truly in love with us, not mistaking lust for love, or infatuation for reality. I wish you well. Be patient and work on becoming the person you want to be....the rest will come to you in time.
2006-09-29 14:33:09 · answer #1 · answered by The Oldest Man In The World 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have just answered your own question when you said, "please don't write about going out and dating different people 'cause you can't force yourself into falling in love.) you can fool your mind but not your heart" Think for a minute what you have just said and you will find the solution to your problem.
You are not alone we have all been there. Sooner or later you will find your partner. However, you still have to socialize and make new friends. Always look at your best. Target someone that you really like with your looks, become friends and then take it from there. Good luck.
2006-09-29 21:42:54 · answer #2 · answered by tiger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me like you have some good people and things in your life. Being single is hard at times, and you long for that one special person to come home to.
Try adding some activities in you afternoons esp. when you're a lone. Focus on the good things, fellow your dream, and be open minded.
2006-09-29 21:16:55 · answer #3 · answered by Lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you join clubs and go to places where there's a lot of people. You have to make an effort to do it because you can't just sit around and mope about being single and expect something magical to happen to you. Get out there and have fun! =)
2006-09-29 21:14:33 · answer #4 · answered by michelleee♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am single as well but consider myself attached in that I live with a close family member in order to raise his child. He asks me if I feel like he and his child have held me back and I tell him that it was a personal choice I made because I have always wanted to be a mother and he has given me the opportunity. We do things as a family and his daughter calls me mom so to me it has been worth giving up that part of my life in order to raise a child from a newborn to pre-school age.
2006-09-29 21:14:54 · answer #5 · answered by victoria w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you engage yourself in fun activities, your happy personna shows, and that's very attractive. Love takes time to find all of us. The harder we look, the more elusive it is.
Learn to give what you desire most. Give that love to lonely people, and love will be yours. I guarantee your cup will runneth over!
Remember how much God loves you honey!
2006-09-29 21:13:24 · answer #6 · answered by Lion J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't just jump in 2 being with somebody.have some fun now, try not 2 think about it, don't go out looking 4 somebody,and somebody will come 2 you.
2006-09-29 21:14:11 · answer #7 · answered by queen_mar_mar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Work on yourself and learn to feel satisfied w/yourself first. Then when your least excepting it someone will come across your path.
2006-09-29 21:15:24 · answer #8 · answered by tdenisem01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a trip. You need a change of scenery.
When you love, you will decide to love. Love doesn't happen like those romance novels. It happens when you decide. Weird, huh?
2006-09-29 22:03:54 · answer #9 · answered by Shinigami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not happy being alone then perhaps it is the company that you keep.
First be happy with yourself then others will follow.
2006-09-29 23:21:40 · answer #10 · answered by Kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋