unhappily single?

Question

i'm ok when i wake up, go to school/work and think about what i'd like to accomplish. or when i go out with my friend, go to the movies, read a book & so on...but when i get home, in the afternoon and in the middle of the night (if i can't fall asleep) i feel really depressed. i so miss having someone in my life and it just doesn't happen. so how do i deal with being single and feel satisfied about being alone. (please don't write about going out and dating different people 'cause you can't force yourself into falling in love.) you can fool your mind but not your heart.

thanks.

oh that's a harsh one. i guess you can get pregnant by being alone too, right.

thanks buddy.

Answer 1

Being alone can be very lonely but also can be very calm at times and dont have to worry about getting hurt or rules and times to be places,so just take your time and someone will come into your life 4 sure.Until that time spend it wisely.

Answer 2

To be quite honest, if thats how you feel, thats how you feel. You really cant fool yourself into believing your happy if your just not your right. But Im in the same boat, and although i have moments where i think having a partner would b lovely, i also appreciate the time i have to sort myself out and enjoy my own time.
I look at friends around me and see their relationships and the problems they are having and im quite pleased its not me! Harsh but true!
Enjoy life and your own company...if your alone and start to get depressed,i find this helps: pop on a fave track on ur mp3 player and take an evening walk, go watch the sun set, walk in the rain...anything that gives u inspiration is good.
Or face the problem head on by just writing all your feelings down in a diary thing and just have a really good cry! It really calms you down and when ever you reread it, the pain is not as bad as u remember.
When you feel happier in yourself and you stop wishing for someone to be there, thats when it will happen for you. I really believe that. I hope this helps a little bit:)

Answer 3

Looks like you got the wrong idea about dating. Dating is not about forcing yourself to fall in love. It is about understanding the other person. Kind of like shopping for a mate. Join a volunteer group (something that you would like to do) or join some fun classes at a college. You may meet someone who shares the same interest as you. Some people get so rigid in whom they will date that they miss out on the "right" person.

If nothing else, artificial insemination. :)

Answer 4

Well, you could obviously use some companionship. Have you tried getting a cat? I love my kitty. I mean, it sounds like I'm being rude, but seriously, you can't just follow some procedure and get a perfect guy/girl to drop into your lap out of nowhere. I don't even think they exist. I think we're built to hate one another, its only a matter of time. But my cat is awesome.

I'm sorry that you feel pressure to get in a relationship, but try to consider how miserable you would be if you just had some controlling, crazed, bastard spouse screaming at you as soon as you get home. Theres no good reason to rush into a relationship or even to desperately seek one.

It sure is nice to come home and lay down next to someone (in their arms/with you in their arms) but it doesn't come out the way it looks in your dreams!

If only the world were as great as we all wished it were...

Answer 5

i know that you how you feel in a sense because i am married but my husband has been away at for three years and i am fine during the day but the nigths can be so lonely what i do is when i wake up and i am depressioned i write a journal and it helps because i can express how i am feeling and when you do that then its not that bad, don't get into a relationship because your lonely through i would rather spend a lifetime alone than with someone i didn't love

Answer 6

Learn to be comfortable with yourself, that you are a good person, you enjoy your own company and don't need someone to "complete" you. Then when you meet someone, ask yourself if you enjoy their company more than your own. If the answer is yes, go for it, if it's a no, move on. Being lonely in a bad relationship is worse than being with someone you love and respect, YOU!

Answer 7

people have different vocations in life. holy orders, married life and single blessedness. apparently the last one is not right for you. you need to focus on going out with people that could lead to the other two. put more energy doing charitable civic works and you get the feeling of usefullness in the world. a lot needs to be done and your help is greatly needed just look for it and keep busy.

Answer 8

the other day i answered a question like this one,and i answered this:i'm 25 years old and my sister when she was my age has been married for 2 years already.does it bothers me? no! i think you should appreciate the time you have for yourself.maybe you need to go through this time in your life to prepare yourself for when that special someone comes into your life.don't worry and be patient,beleive me it's the best thing you can do.

Answer 9

hey it sounds to me you are really doing well you have school and work and sometimes that leaves no time for the other but you will have more respectful people in your life to know your a stand up person and be happier knowing you didnt cheat yourself hey email some one when you can call your aunt or someone

Answer 10

I've got the perfect answer. Look at all the unhappy married couples.