I think that being the "Fat man with a plan" really helped me to mature. Being the Biggest guy but overcoming it all to be loved by all is one of my greatest but not my only accomplishment. Im 32 years old, and I think that in part is why I got my job at 10.00 $ an hour at an amusement park. Because of my people skills. I only want the same success for my son. But he has to go through the fire same as I did..High school is too easy if you are good looking so as a loving dad I sabatage every attempt because I know he will be better for it in the long run
2006-09-29 14:02:56 · 19 answers · asked by Italian Stallion 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
HAAYYYY! My DAD (god) did that to me,remember the cross,and I think the churches teach trial by fire to all their members too. Sooooo keep feeding him all the ho ho's he can eat and he'll roll into life just fine.
2006-09-30 17:27:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
#1 It is not funny when your fat. People use humor as a defense mechanism. I am sure you have other attributes that people loved besides your size.
#2 Do you realize today that children get report cards sent home regarding their weight and size? Obesity in children is a real epidemic as well as it lowers self esteem.
#3 Your son will find his own success. Just give him a chance. He will find his own path.
#4 I believe when you sabatage his life your mental illness is kicking in. You know I bet if you went and talked to some one, i.e. psychiatrist, there might be some type of help for that!!
I almost forgot, "I am soooo glad you are not my dad."
2006-09-29 14:12:45 · answer #2 · answered by animalcrackers31 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Was your dad the funny fat man too? is the first question that comes to my mind.
You mention he having to go through the same fire as you did; I'm not sure why. By the sounds of things, he's already going through his own fire with your "short sighted" demands.
Remember what is truly important. Is he a good person, kind to people, animals? Does he try his hardest and give it his all? Would he reach out to others to help? Does he have sound morales? Is he abusive in any manner?
It's what's inside that counts.
2006-09-29 14:58:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
So let me see if I got this right. . . . . you want to burden your son with a weight problem by sabotaging every attempt to stay a healthy weight.
You are planning for him to also be "the Funny Fat Kid" and endure the ridicule that can go with that, the unhappiness in school, the increased chance of him committing suicide, the depression, potential heart-disease, possible stroke, just so he can be "better for it".
It's not likely that he will end up "Successful like his dad" he could also end up dead like thousands of overweight people.
Maybe he wants to aim a little higher than that $10 an hour job that you got.
If you are for real, you should be ashamed of yourself.
2006-09-29 16:00:10 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was the ugly, poor girl in high school... I worked hard to make beautiful pageant gowns for my daughter, entered her in them... only to find out that she definitly had a mind of her own.
She was so pretty, but just didn't care about it, never placed... because she didn't want to be a beauty queen.
Some kids are gonna follow in the footsteps of their parents & some are gonna go in a totally opposite direction... because, in the long-run, they're gonna choose.
2006-09-29 14:14:25 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do you also live in a van down by the river, like Chris Farley?
2006-09-29 16:07:49 · answer #6 · answered by NA 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
his emotional skills will develop and thats good that you care about him in that respect, but putting your child at risk through health issues is not worth it. he can achieve strength in other ways. Please understand that you cannot say that going through high school when you look good is easy. i was sexually abused because i so called 'look good from the outside'. im still a very strong person, and it isn't easy 'looking good'.
2006-09-29 14:07:59 · answer #7 · answered by Poo for ALL 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Speaking as a guy in his early twenties I think that you are right but don't sabotage him too badly because that could hurt his self image... hope this helps...
2006-09-29 14:11:08 · answer #8 · answered by jam1577 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
that's horrible. why would you sabotage anything for your son? it's his life, not yours. just because the things that happened to you helped your life in the long run, it doesn't mean that they will automatically help your son. let him live his own life.
2006-09-29 14:05:55 · answer #9 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you should call you self sabataging stallion in you life and if i were to help you it would be a ridgid diet of vegatable..no kidding
2006-09-29 14:07:31 · answer #10 · answered by sandras77 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋