If your husbands former female coworker getting him a job at her new employment, should I worry?

Question

They have been emailing back and forth about it. He actually said Thanks baby.. at the end of on email... On the other hand he forwards all emails to me...

Answer 1

Yes, you should definitly be concerned. Hopefully there is nothing serious to be concerned about at this point. However, just ignoring these feelings of concern that are cropping up in your mind would not be the right thing to do, you are having those for a reason.

Unfortunatly affairs can happen between two people that never intended on any such thing. Sometimes these types of "relationships" or "friendships" take on a life of their own. This isn't to say that all do, it is however something all married couples should be concerned with and on the look out for.

I don't know there is anything you could say or do directly about your husbands "friendship" that wouldn't push your husband away from you and in the direction you don't want. If he is referring to her with a term of endearment, it can be assumed that thier friendship has moved beyond more than just professional (which, still isn't to say it's all bad.)

Try to be very supportive and respectful to your husband. Be open in sharing your feelings to him. Try not to react in anger or disgust if he doesn't see things the way you do or does something that hurts you. Tell him often how much you appreciate the work he is doing. Show him respect, respect, respect. You've got to make sure he will stay open to you. He will eventually see the reality. The question is; when? I really recommend going to see a marriage counselor. Seeking help doesn't have to mean a marriage is in dire straights. I think it is a good idea for many couples. Why wait till the brink of divorse, or until a huge damaging event occurs. Go now, one can help make sure you are both on the same page and acting in the best interest of each other, which in the end is the best interest of yourselves. A professional could help you both navigate some new negotiations in your relationship. It's not a bad thing. Good luck.

Answer 2

Personally, I would be very suspicious! What wife wouldn't at least be curious about answering "thanks baby"? Unless this is the way he addresses ALL female friends.I wouldn't let my guard down for one second. You never know what goes on behind closed doors. And when it comes down to it, EVERYONE starts out as just friends.Keep an open mind, closed mouth, and eyes wide open.Good luck!! I'm hoping it is truely just a friendship.

Answer 3

Don't wory about it.Getting the new job is important. He forwards the e-mails to you so he's not hiding anything. So, he called her baby. In order to get the job, he might hve to be very friendly or flatter her a bit. Just imagine him saying "thanks buddy" like it was a guy getting him the job. Same thing. Good luck.

Answer 4

What you should be looking at is, not the emails, but him. Does he try to push you away? is he gone for eratic and long periods of time?does he avoid the subject of bringinyour relationship further? does she come up in most conversations? thats when you should start worrying

Answer 5

I wouldn't worry too much about it if he has good intentions (not including cheating). Plus he forwards them to you, so nothing must be going on.

Answer 6

if he is not hideing it from why worry by the way lots of men call women baby, no worries

Answer 7

Naa! Don't worry if he didn't want to you now , don't respond until you have a real reason to.

Answer 8

Uh, yeah.

Answer 9

hmmmm i'd worry...why is he calling her baby?