So he can drive tractor trailers, his first year he will be on the road alot home only on weekends, except for 1 weekend a month. Therer is alot of money to be made in this career and I wouldn't have to work, however Im not sure I want him to do it. I know If I tell him that I dont want him to to do it he wouldn't but I also know that it will totaly break his heart becuase this is something that he's always wanted to do. I suppose Im being selfish, but were going to be getting married and I would like his attention... Any suggestions! Please!
2006-09-29 13:56:58 · 11 answers · asked by lilmizzerica 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would let him decide. it is his life and he wants to sacrifice to provide for you and any future children.
my husband is now in iraq, for his 3 time in 4 yrs. I can't tell a man that wants to fight for his country and provide for his family no, thats not right.
at least you will get weekends with him, that gives you time to sit and cuddle and watch tv with him. enjoy those weekends, and its only a yr, so its not the end of the world.
2006-09-29 14:00:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
lilmizzer, i am a truck driver and i rember the day i decided to drive a truck and the conversation between me and my ex-wife sounding very simular. the one thing we aggreed on is to set limits if i was goin g to drive a truck. if i started to drive then we would say one year we will re-evaluate and if my wife at the time couldnt stand it then i would come off the road. i would love to know who he is going to train through and if he has already got a job lined up, becuase not all training is equal and deffinately not all companies are equal. there are many pit falls to driving a truck and being gone alot especially those that directly affect your marriage, jealousey on both of your parts, your soon to be husband will be gone most of the time and want to come home and try and force his will as the "man" of the house, although you say alot of money out there its not as much as you think when you add the amount of time he is gone and the cost of living is extremely high when you have to eat near an interstate... its extremly hard to stay below $150.00 a week especially if your a smoker and this doesnt include alot of start up cost for things like bedding cb radio tools. the bright side to driving a truck is after he gets experience and proves his lisc with out and accidents or tickets he can then move to do what i did ( although extremely harder work then just driving a truck) i started driving car hualers when i started driving 10 years ago $700.00 a week before taxes was a norm driving normal van and flat bed might be up to about900.00 a week but hauling cars from the time i started i was making $1400.00 a week and have made as much as $2600.00 in one week. <~~~ its extremely rare so never look for it to happenover ten years and i have only seen one paycheck like it. hauling cars making the money i do. i am home 2 or 3 times a week and on the weekends but its only recovery time that im home before i have to go again... i mentionaed the jealousey if you two can get the nextell radio it helps alot and with the gps you can always be secure you know where he is and he can with you...... jealousey is somthing that destroy alot of cdl lives. and as far as when he comes home. your husband has to understand that the house is your house and you run the show he shouldn't think when he comes home that he can change anything..... i know this sounds dumb but its a huge issue that is often over looked.... who is he getting his training from??? who is he planning to work for???? and who is paying for the training, gi bill???
2006-09-29 21:18:43 · answer #2 · answered by joe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
getting your cdl can be a great career booster. however, a job where he is on the road all the time is going to put great strain on your relationship, especially if you are going to be planning a wedding. if it's something that he has always wanted to do, let him do it. however, there are jobs that require a cdl that do not have such horrible hours. i suggest he check into those. some truck drivers drive the same long distance route everyday (kansas to oklahoma and such), but they are home every night.
2006-09-29 21:02:03 · answer #3 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope it all works out for the both of you , and I am not wishing anything bad to happen in your relationship but it was the worst thing that ever happened to me , I guess my husband just had to much free time on his hands and when a guy is gone for long periods of time he starts to live a whole new life of his own, my husband cheated on me and I would have never thought of it happening to me but it did, if you could go with him I think it would be for the best, just my thoughts on this , hope you understand what I mean good luck to you both
2006-10-01 01:51:21 · answer #4 · answered by missy h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suggest he go to work for a company that will alow you to go with. Ya'll can stay w/ family or friends while in town. He should make enough and you won't have any primary bills. Plus you'll get to travel all over the states. My husband's a trucker too.
2006-09-29 21:05:40 · answer #5 · answered by babygirl4 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lesson 1: Always speak the truth!....U can compromise and work it out together!
Lesson 2: if u love him u will follow Lesson 1!
Tell him politely!
2006-09-29 21:01:17 · answer #6 · answered by Garden Isle Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I fthere's any doubt, try to talk him out of it. I drove over the road for awhile and it was really hard on our family. I dont recomend it for families or families to be.
2006-09-30 00:08:24 · answer #7 · answered by david w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't have to work go on the road with him.
2006-09-29 20:59:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say go for it and if you dont have to work you should go with him on occassion
2006-09-29 21:32:30 · answer #9 · answered by fortyninertu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, let him work for it for awhile, you can always call him, or he call you whenever he's on the road.
2006-09-29 20:59:17 · answer #10 · answered by superboredom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋