If your husband, wife, girlfriend ,or boyfriend cheated, would you give him or her a second chance?

Question

I sure would. But as soon as she blows that second, she's gone!

Answer 1

I personally would because everyone deserves a second chance..not everyone repeats themselves and if you truly love this person then you would give thema chance to prove themselves

Answer 2

Only if I was paralyze from the neck down. I don't think that I could trust him not to cheat a second time. Plus too much energy spent worrying about does the car really has a flat or is he with another girl, this would give me an ulcer. I would get rid of him before paranoia sets in.

Answer 3

My first husband did cheat on me and I did give him a second chance however he did it again with the same woman who is now his current wife who has cheated on him. Once a cheat always a cheat. My second husband was very faithful but he died and my boyfriend is very faithful. If he were to cheat on me after what happened with my first husband he would be packing his bags.

Answer 4

I was in that situation and yes, I did give the guy a second chance.

Now I wish I hadn't. He had absolutely no remorse over what he'd done, I felt like crap and he wouldn't go to counseling with me, and I never did really trust him again. On top of that, when I did finally divorce him, it was very, very expensive for me.

So if that's the situation you're in, maybe you can learn from what went wrong with my experience: people do make mistakes, sometimes awful ones. However, if they can't even admit that they've done something bad and that they've hurt you, they deserve to be kicked to the curb along with the garbage.

Good luck!

Answer 5

It would depend on the situation and who he cheated with. If he did it a lot with a friend or family member I would dump him. If it was a one time thing with someone I didn't know I may give him a second chance, but he would have to make it up to me.

Answer 6

Maybe. But it depends on what kind of cheating were involved. If he slept with multiple girls or slept with one girl multiple times, no. Same goes if he started an emotional relationship with another girl. I don't just mean becoming friends with her but investing more time and energy into that relationship than ours. I might if it was a random drunken one night stand. The problem would be that from then on I would not be able to trust him. And without trust I don't think a relationship could survive.

Answer 7

I once was so unfortunate to date a perpetual philanderer. It culminated into me discovering that not only was he seeing several other women behind my back, but also engaged to one of them.

Lesson learned from this story: Once a cheater, always a cheater. If one's partner gets away with it the first time - whether caught or not - it will continue.

Of course, there are circumstances that might seem mitigating, but regardless - there is no point in dating a cheater. Hence, no second chances.

Answer 8

It depends on whether the cheating was a public event, or if it was discreet. If it were to become known that I allowed something as serious as cheating to occur unanswered, my reputation would suffer. A man is only as good as his word, and how he behaves. Public humiliation by a trusted other cannot be tolerated unless you want to be viewed as weak and impotent.

If it is a private matter, it can be settled as the heart dictates.

Answer 9

Is the cheater remorseful and willing to work through it with me? Is it something I feel can be saved or has it been over for a while and this was just the final power play?
I agree however that the second time would be it!

Answer 10

It depends. I would give him a second chance, but it would be hard to trust him after that. I agree with you though. If he messes up the second time, then he's gone.

Answer 11

Well, I allow second chances for mistakes, but as soon as I know there was physical contact, he would be gone.

If I am not important enough to him in moments like those, I am not important to him.