Hi! I had this friend. I thought she was a really good friend. she was rather straight-edge. We were friends off and on when our lives made it possible. We started talking again and her life wasn't exactly going very good. so, I tried to help her (as I always seem to be that friend). I let her move in with me, my daughter, and my bf. I would never leave anyone without a place to live. she was having a problem at her job that was justifyable, so I got her a job with a family member of mine. In switching jobs, she didn't get payed and I helped to pay some her bills til she could pay me back. Car loan, cell bill, and insurance. she started to pay me back then she met thigs guy who was in prison. she ended up going out with him and doing really bad things. she just left and never payed me the rest of the money or nething. I know she isn't w/ the guy & has a gr8 job. how'd she just walk away? I miss her. Is the money worth continuing to be astranged? (more, but can't fit it..lol)
2006-09-29 13:54:38 · 5 answers · asked by i-care 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
there are people out there without a conscience. pathological jerks. I was in a similar situation. I know you miss her, I miss my friend...but am much better off without him taking advantage of me. You have to rememeber...a true friend would NEVER do this to you. Caring people sometimes get s(*& upon by jerks like her. Try to move on and learn.
2006-09-29 14:05:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
let go of the money.. I was always told when you loan a friend money consider it a gift in your mind, dont expect to see that money again.. And if perhaps she does pay you well that is a bonus.. Just consider the monies you gave her a gift, and tap yourself on the back for being a very kind hearted loving person.
and it sounds as if you might have to let your friend go for now until she comes back down to reality.. But do not bail her out anymore, you will just be enabling her a this point...
2006-09-29 21:19:54 · answer #2 · answered by sissybombay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a familiar situation before... Had this close friend of mine whom I know since primary school. He lose his job, had quarrel with his family and got no place to stay. I took him in out of pity and we lived together with my girlfriend. I helped him pay all his bills including handphone bills etc. I even recommend him to work at my friends work place. In the end, he turned 'bad' even did not finish his job properly which my friend (his boss) complain to me about it. Worst still, he ended up going bed with my girlfriend one day when I returned home. Since that day, I nvr treated some1 so nice again...
2006-09-29 21:12:23 · answer #3 · answered by porridge0000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had a friend that borrowed money off my elderly mom whom is sick. was supposed to pay back in six days now its been months no money plus one way in friendship always wanting to do things for her not even phone calls asking how we are or ever vieited . we were friends for yrs got tired of one way yes shes a user
2006-09-29 21:33:37 · answer #4 · answered by mamma04103 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for one never lend money to someone you have a on and off again relationship and two she will never forget she owes you money every time she see's you it will pop in her head , and 3 she owes the money and she should pay it back because if she values your friendship it shouldnt have to be thought about she is taking avntage of your friendship and she wants you to forget
2006-09-29 21:01:57 · answer #5 · answered by mz.thang 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋