how do u get over a friends death?

Question

my friend died a terrible car accident and i dont think that i will ever get over it please help to no what to do the days that i cant stop thinking of him

Answer 1

Death is so final, but also inevitable. Time is a biggest healer, the pain will reduce, but the longing, the wanting of that friend near you will probably never go away all your life.
As time passes, the good things, the good times shared will be remembered, the bad things generally forgotten.
Life's Lovely! Love & Live Life!

Answer 2

When the thought arises, think of him. Let the thought form like a cloud forms in the sky, and then, let it go.
The cloud analogy may seem corny but it works on all levels.
Enjoy the memory/thought, whatever form it takes. It could be you're missing him, it could be fear of your own mortality, it could be hatred towards the fact that he died so soon. . . whatever it is, let it come up, and then let it go and go on with your day and the rest of yoru thoughts.
Stay productive, give yourself positive things to do, things that make you feel good about life.
Fortunately or unfortunately the memory of him will fade with time. Allow yourself to realize that what you are feeling is only what you are feeling in the moment and live for the next moment when the feelings will be more positive.
Date, go out with friends, spend time with family, meet new people in different places. Slowly, your new experiences will exceed your old ones and the memories of your friend will become less and less.
Healing can take a long time but it does happen.
People have lost entire families and gone on to build their lives up again, to love again, to have fun again.
Have you ever read 'the life of Pi'. It's a good novel. I can't explain exactly why (maybe it was other things in my life at the time too) but it helped me deal with the 'getting over' part of the death of someone I knew more than 2 years after her death.
Good Luck.

Answer 3

You write down your feelings in a journal, you gather your thoughts and your feelings. You attend the funeral. You learn to drink in moderation if you ever do drink again. I partied wildly starting at a young age and have watched alot of people being picked off as a result of bad bad decisions...a part of you will be mad at him on top of everything else...keep yourself together, or cry, but express your pain hun...its an awful thing. I wish I could just hug you. Get with your other friends and get many hugs. There is nothing that can totally take away the pain of losing someone. All you can do is love those that you still have with you as much as possible before they are gone and dont go into the "What ifs." You cant change what happened and you will only drive yourself and everyone else crazy. Take Care hun.-Rachel.

Answer 4

It is devastating to have a close friend die in a car accident. I am very sorry for your loss. You will remember your friend for your whole life and it will always make you sad. It is OK to talk to your friend who died to let out some of the grief you feel. Sometimes you may feel angry and sometimes you may feel sad.

Depending on how close you were to the person, you may find it difficult to go on with your own life. Talking to others will help you. There may be a free grief counseling group at your local hospital. If you go to school, you may want to talk with the school counselor. You may talk with a clergyman.

Usually trained professionals can help the most. However, you may find that talking to your other friends, especially those who were acquainted with your friend who died in the accident, will help the most. You may appreciate your own life more and realize how very fragile and precious life really is.

You may be kinder to the elderly and more careful when you drive. The loss of your friend should motivate you to do something positive. If alcohol was involved maybe you may want to get involved in students against drunk driving. If the traffic signals were inadequate, you may want to request a traffic signal from your local municipal government or legislature. You may want to start a scholarship fund in memory of your friend. All of these things are pro active ways of dealing with grief.

You may also take pictures from a magazine and make a collage, or write a poem or song. These things also help you work through your grief. It may take a very long time so do not expect quick results.

Grief work can be summarized by the acronym TEAR:
T = To accept the reality of the loss.
E = Experience the pain of the loss.
A = Adjust to the new environment without your [loved] one.
R = Reinvest in the new reality.

It may be a time when you will find renewed meaning and comfort in religion or a time when you will be angry with God. The program on TV, Worship, is televised 24 hours and used in some hospitals. You can see it on the web (ignore the commercials) at http://www.worship.net.
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Answer 5

I am so sorry!
I don't really know what to say but this:
Sometimes life takes you down,but you can't let life keep you down,you have to find a way to go with it!
It's life and you can't do anything about it but just enjoy your life and have fun! Do the things you can before it's too late! Life isn't always happy but you'll find a way to get through it!Just remember,you're not the only one in the whole world who had to go through this! Enjoy what you have now and be thankful about what you have!

Answer 6

You can never get over a death of ANYONE close to you completely. My advice is to just continue living. I bet your friend wouldn't want you to suffer because of his death. So don't just live for him, live for yourself. Go out, have fun. Find comfort in other friends, and just live. That's all you can do.

Answer 7

You will never get over it, nor will you forget your friend. But, the pain will get better. Of course it won't be easy. If it is stopping you from doing your usual activities, you should try to get help. Be open about your feelings. Best wishes to you. Believe me, life does and needs to go on.

Answer 8

First of all, if you don't think you'll get over it, you won't. Esp. if you want to remember but don't want to hurt. Mind over matter is not just a cliche. Remember it is okay to think about it, but please do so positively, think about the situation your friend might be in if he was alive but became paralyzed neck down, think about how much pain he could have been in but ISN'T!
Think about the good times with him. Remember the good, not the bad!

Answer 9

You don't get over it. You get through it, very slowly, one minute at a time. I'm sorry for your friend's death. ***Hugs***

Answer 10

It will take time to heal the pain in your heart, you will never forget about him but as time goes by the pain will lessen slowly. You wont ever forget about him but it wont always hurt as bad as it does at this moment for you. When you feel that you have reached that place you will then remember the good times with him and fond memories.He will always have a place in your heart and whatever religion you follow will put you at peace with knowing wherever his soul rests.