My husband & I are seperated. His family doesn't approve of me & want him married to a nice girl from his country. Most of our fights have been over his brothers. Well, he moved out recently & we both have agreed on a divorce, so why does he keep going back & forth. One day he will treat me like he hates me & can't wait for the divorce, then the next he'll call me on the pretense of seeing our daughter, After he comes over he starts telling me that he loves me & doesn't want a divorce. That he wants me to wait for him to get his issues dealt with. Then when he feels better, we can work things out. Then a few hours later or even the next day he's back to insulting me & telling me how he cant stand me & cant wait for me to be out of his life & F the day he ever met me..... This is driving me crazy. If he doesn't want me, why won't he let me get over him & just leave me alone?
2006-09-29 13:21:56 · 10 answers · asked by Amy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He sounds very confused! He needs to do what he wants to do, it seems like his family has been trying to tear you guys apart. He needs to make up his own mind and not listen to anyone else. Now what you need to do is try not to talk to him for a few days. This will make him open his eyes. Men hate when woman do this because they think that we are moving on and also they feel like they are losing the control over us. Be Strong Girl and teach him a lesson!
2006-09-29 13:29:03 · answer #1 · answered by joyall57 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Theres a couple of things I see here. Your husband has mental problems or is a Mommas boy in which he wont stand up against his family for you. Whether hes afraid of them or what I dont know. The biggest thing I see here is why are you putting up with this. You dont have to wait for him to decide but you make the decision. Not for him but for you and your daughter. You deserve someone better that wont play mind games and that will definitely stand up against his family for the woman he married. It definitely sounds like his family controls him and hes acting confused to cover it up and really doesnt know what to do or which side he should choose. He has some growing up to do. But if its driving you crazy, then by all means dont wait for him,but give him an immediate ultimatum; you and your daughter or his family, but not both, then you decide if youre better off with him or without him, and either stay or move on. Good luck
2006-09-29 13:51:08 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently he is not going to make a choice because you are makeing it too easy for him.I think it is up to you to make the decision that makes YOU happy. I don't think you realize that you have a say so in this relatioship also. What do YOU want? Let this be about what you want and what will make you happy, don't wait for him to make all the decisions, he probably won't ever because he doesn't have to! Take charge of this situation and decide what you want! good luck:)
2006-09-29 13:28:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like someone feels a strong sense of loyalty to his parents. Ultimatley, you deserve to be treated with respect. Don't take the abuse anymore. If he is so easily swayed by his family, then I would not trust him. You should not take that. When he pulls his crap, you need to kick him out.
Sounds like he wants the best of both worlds. Don't like him keep changing his mind, make it up for him.
2006-09-29 13:25:39 · answer #4 · answered by Jennifer J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THIS is why people from different countries dont get together, there parents try to make sure they marry someone from there country, BUT be very careful he dosent want to take the children as well when he goes. a lot have & the mothers dont get to see them again,
2006-09-29 13:42:26 · answer #5 · answered by KATIEKAT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a bit sad that you share a daughter with him because this just makes the relationship more complicated- but its obvious he does not want you. i know i sound real mean - but there's really no other way to put it. i pray you find a man that does not play games and provides you with the stability you and your daughter need. let him be
2006-09-29 13:38:39 · answer #6 · answered by arewa247 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He seems to value his family more than he values his wife.
Let him go back home to mommy, you will be beter for it.
2006-09-29 13:41:35 · answer #7 · answered by mopjky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
divorce him and go on with your life you deserve better.
2006-09-30 01:45:03 · answer #8 · answered by nanny2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you let him????? Move on. THink in the child and dont play games!!!!!!
2006-09-29 13:48:53 · answer #9 · answered by -------- 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ALL MEN ARE FLEES ON A DOG!!!!!!
2006-09-29 13:39:14 · answer #10 · answered by Alexa The Princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋