My wife and I have been separated for about four months for a variety of reasons. Until about three weeks ago, it was pretty amicable (inclduding several liasons since I moved out).
Question: who has reconciled when they were physically separated and how did that happen? Again, we are at four months and recently hit the "screw you" stage as we work through some of the anger. Should I just give up?
2006-09-29 13:19:44 · 4 answers · asked by markoh4fun 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This basically comes down to one question; what do each of you really want in this relationship? If both of you want it to work out, then it will happen, but if only one really wants it to work, then it will never work. You cant force another to feelwhat you do no matter what. Even if the both of you are in agreement you still have alot of problems to solve orwork out before you could ever even think of getting back together. Marriage counseling can and does work again only if its what the both of you truly want and must enter it with an open mind and heart, because its not always easy. The path to being reunited is harder then the dating to marriage path was, and will require a whole lot more work and compromising especially to overcome and not repeat past problems. So its time to take one of those "liasons" and sit down and talk about where you both want this to go or its time to move on and quit acting like children. Good luck
2006-09-29 13:33:37 · answer #1 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is my question. I feel for you, as it seems you love your wife like I love my husband. He felt he couldnt take anymore. that i am not there for him, that i cannot give him what he wants. i felt he is a control freak, too demanding, never praising or aknowledging the fact that i was always ready to jump for him. i would sacrifice the moon for him. we have been seperated for a month. i miss him so much. weekends are so hard, as he is a truck driver, and i lived for him to get home on friday. yet he seems to think he can do better than me, and is determined to move on. tells me he loves me with all of his heart, and he always will...but what does that mean. I wonder if he misses me, or if he will ever realize that we are meant for each other. i could never think about finding someone else when there is only one who can excite me, turn my head, or even get the time of day from me, and it is him...and i have to live with this, until the good Lord helps me know i can move forward. My best wishes to you, and if you figure it out, let me know.
2006-09-29 20:29:56 · answer #2 · answered by Elly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think about it....IF you wanted to work it our...you would stay and work it out. Separating is not the answer.
2006-09-29 20:50:45 · answer #3 · answered by -------- 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in the same boat. I want to work it out but one day its i love you and the next day it is i hate you. I wish you luck. cause I need it to.
2006-09-29 20:28:55 · answer #4 · answered by djc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋