My boyfriend and I had been going out for quite a while before we had sex (I wanted to make sure he wanted to be with me for me and not for sex). We are both college students with jobs, homework and class so when we see each other we are tired and don’t do much, which means that we only have sex once or twice a week. Now that we are sexually active I can’t seem to get enough! I want more of him... in me! How do I tell him I want more sex? Or should I be satisfied that I have a man that can actually please me, no matter how often?
2006-09-29 13:18:01 · 12 answers · asked by Bill 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
tell him you know that you're both busy and you totally have to compromise because of school and that you love him so. say that you wish you could be intimate more often because you're so hot for him but you understand why it's only happening once a week. it's because it's school, college is not a walk though the park. i know how it is. i'm always at work and going to school when i get home i'm exhausted! if you're a sweetheart to him and communicate it in a way where he won't take it the wrong way (that he's not enough) then you should be fine. my girl and i just started school, i know EXACTLY how it is. but i love her, it's not all about the sex anymore. she knows how i feel about it too and we try to keep life balanced so we're both happy.
2006-09-29 13:38:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a situation that is going to happening for the rest of your life. Real life has a way of interfering with your personal relationship. You need to learn at an early age how to express what you want and then find creative ways to get it.
First of all be honest with him. You aren't satisfied, you want more. You need to tell him that.
Second, find ways to be with each other that enhance your relationship but that doesn't become sexual, or maybe just doesn't become completely sexual. This takes some discipline, and realistically, its almost impossible. But if you can find time to talk, take a walk together, make out but no actually sex, then you can sneak in the real stuff. Phone sex can be hot and fun, just not all the time. Meet someplace safe and have a quickie. Go away for the weekend, even if its just hiding out in town but no one else knows. You're young, use that college educated brain of yours to be creative.
Good luck to you.
2006-09-29 20:26:32 · answer #2 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, the best thing about being gay is that we can ask for as much sex as we can without feeling dirty. Since you have a boyfriend, it is just right and proper to ask him for more sex but only if he's not tired or something. Maybe if you spend a day or two off from work and just be together, you will have the whole day or two for a hot steamy sex!
2006-09-29 20:51:33 · answer #3 · answered by Esthon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U have to be realistic about the situation. If your not having sex because of legitimate reasons then just let it be if he is a good partner otherwise. Now if the opportunity is there and he isn't willing to take advantage of it then it's time to say something. Try planning a romantic time to set the mood and see if that helps bring it on!!
2006-09-29 20:28:40 · answer #4 · answered by Tony 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in a serious relationship, then you should be able to share your feelings. Sex is sometimes a tricky subject to bring up, but do it in a sensitive way. Explain to your mate that you really enjoy how close you feel when the two of you are intimate. You're not bad for wanting more, just be careful and sensitive to your man's needs and limits. :)
2006-09-29 20:22:53 · answer #5 · answered by fruitieisland 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you are a boy yourself,why are you dating another boy anyways?
Second, you are still in school there is no way you should be eve thinking about sex right now and you should not listent o these people on here giving you this advise yeah they are trying to help, but nothing will help you more than the truth, sweetie you are great in God's eyes and many other people,why are you messing yourself up with this obviously you friend doesn't care for you after all, if he did, he would've let you trust in God for your love!
2006-09-29 21:03:43 · answer #6 · answered by Shacoby F 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
No. Don't be afraid to tell him you want more. Sex is a big part of a relationship, and so is communication. Chances are, he's "up" for it! Good Luck, Bill!
2006-09-29 20:22:37 · answer #7 · answered by MoMoney23 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know where you are coming from, but .. been there and have the souvineer, be careful about your time..you are in school for something besides sex....everything in moderation, even though its hard (in more ways than one. ) Good luck
2006-09-29 20:21:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is always best to communicate with your partner about your needs. Try to schedule time to be together when you will not be so tired.
2006-09-29 20:23:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, man. see what are your asking here. Just do it if you need more. Be a free guy and enjoy the life.
2006-09-29 21:11:34 · answer #10 · answered by Mike 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋