There is this boy who likes to make comments about my chest to my face and my friends. He says I have a rack from god. i have asked him to stop polietly multiple times but he doesn't get the message. Today in our high schools parking lot he called me over and said he wanted to ask me something. I went over and said what. He started to look at my chest and I said " All you want to do is look at my chest" His friends started to laugh and said " Busted!". I personally don;t think its funny and I don't want to deal with it anymore. I don't want to be a b*tch about it but I'm getting fed up. Would you consider what he is doing sexual harrasment. I don't wear clothes that encourage him to stare. What do I do? Thanks in advance
2006-09-29 13:13:21 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Yes. What he is doing, you have recognized it for what it is. If this is happening at school, get the school authorities involved.
If he's doing this off school grounds, get the law involved.
This clod needs straightening now.
2006-09-29 13:18:42 · answer #1 · answered by thezaylady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is sexual harassment and you should report it to a teacher, counselor or the principal. Unfortunately the offender probably thinks he's paying you a compliment but has to be "cool" for his peers. He needs to understand that his behavior is not acceptable in high school or anywhere he may be headed in life after he graduates. If he doesn't learn to act appropriately he'll be subject to employment terminations and lawsuits.
2006-09-29 13:20:52 · answer #2 · answered by Newlungs2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is harassment. Technically, the way the law is written sexual harassment only occurs in the work place. Media got a hold and uses it loosely. Either way you should report it to someone. As a woman you don't have to stand for that type of treatment.
2006-09-29 13:37:13 · answer #3 · answered by E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is sexual harrassment. You poor thing that would be horrible.
You could report it to your teacher or school counsellor. Perhaps a female teacher would be understanding.
But really i think the best way to resolve the situation is just ignore him completely. If he and his friends, dont get a reaction from you they will soon get bored and stop.
If they see you are getting upset and it is affecting you they will continue. So totally ignore him.
It wil stop.
2006-09-29 13:22:39 · answer #4 · answered by Nic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Completely. This guy needs to learn now how inappropriate it is. Sure he may enjoy your breasts, but commenting to you over and over isn't good. He's lucky you've been as patient as you have. It's probably a good idea to chat with a school counselor about this to remedy the problem before it gets any worse.
2006-09-29 13:17:31 · answer #5 · answered by fnage 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's hinging on sexual harrassment....He is making you uncomfortable and saying things about your body in a sexual tone....I wouldn't put up with it either....Let him know you are fed up and will report him the next time he does it..I know how you feel. I was sexually harrassed in high school as well, I am well endowed up top. I hated it and it has affected me to this day with trusting mens motives and always wondering what men are really thinking about me when they are looking at me. Don't put up with it...you don't have to! Good luck :)
2006-09-29 13:17:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea, like, looking isnt really, but asking you to come over JUST so he can look at them, thats getting a bit wrong.
And on behalf of guys everywhere:
Sorry we stare at your boobs so much, but we mean it as a compliment"
I mean, we stare because we find you attractive. But if he's talking about them and stuff, you should tell the teachers or something.
2006-09-29 13:29:30 · answer #7 · answered by trainboy765 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Every time you respond to his "come over here" routine or look at him you are encouraging him. If you look the other way and pretend you can't hear him at all he will probably quit and go on to someone else whose reactions he enjoys.
2006-09-29 13:17:38 · answer #8 · answered by krisjb1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh hell no see if you were me and if you hanged with my friend . dude that dude would be afraid to even look at you . dude give him a little piece of your mind and remember if you get in trouble dont worry there were lots of people that would be there for you cause well they would understand how you feel . i mean no one likes to feel harassed.
OR DO TALK TO YOUR SCHOOL DEAN . OR TAKE MY ADVICE AND KICK HIS ASSS.
2006-09-29 13:20:17 · answer #9 · answered by THE MOTHERFUCKING PRINCESS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything that you take offense.It doesnt matter what it is. If you dont like it then yes it is. You can do 2 things tell on him and go tell him to stop.
2006-09-29 13:52:36 · answer #10 · answered by imthemomma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋