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2006-09-29 13:10:58 · 13 answers · asked by In Honor of Moja 4 in Social Science Psychology

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I think this is one of those questions that has an "it depends" answer. As in, I need more information about the situation.

For example, if your wife asks you whether you like an especially grotesque dress she's bought, the appropriate answer is "you always look great". Otherwise yes, the truth will end up hurting one or both of you!

As another example, I'm personally glad that the people who put themselves at risk by hiding Jews during the Holocaust did so. Those people had to lie their heads off.

But if someone has done something unethical and you're looking at lying to protect them from the consequences of what they've done, you should probably think twice about it.

2006-09-29 13:58:38 · answer #1 · answered by IrritableMom 4 · 0 0

A lie will hurt more than the truth, because you're placating the person, AND avoiding helping them with the real deal.

A true friend tells another the uncomfortable truth, even at the expense of the relationship.

2006-09-29 20:56:01 · answer #2 · answered by Lion J 3 · 0 0

You mean telling someone the truth about a thing that might upset them? Yes, that hurts, usually. I'd say it depends what the truth IS. If it's not telling ayoung child you used to smoke pot, if they ask, 'cause you know they won't understand (you can tell 'em later), that's okay. But if you know a person who's spouse or significant other is cheating on them, I believe they deserve to know, esp. since the other person could hurt them much more in the long run, or even give them something like HIV! So...it really depends.

Another thing: Most often, the worst insults are the ones that a person knows are true!

2006-09-29 20:45:42 · answer #3 · answered by Gwynneth Of Olwen 6 · 0 0

If you care about someone, you have to ask what you'd do to protect them. We lie to the world, makes us lie to ourselves. If we do that to help someone else, the karma is not too heavy. But the trouble is that as soon as we stray from the rule of truth we can no longer see the truth. We shouldn't lie to protect anyone who has hurt others.

2006-09-29 20:16:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

The truth always hurts and alot of ppl believe lying to protect a person will make them feel better. Regardless of protecting them its not right to lie....think of it this way....u lie to a friend to protect them and they find out the truth from someone else. They will be more devastated for not knowing in the first place and you may lose their friendship.

So no, lying never works. It always catches up with you.

2006-09-29 20:15:37 · answer #5 · answered by gr33n_3y3d_grrl 5 · 1 0

the truth hurt but you shouldn't lie about it. even if you could lie now but soon or later the truth will come and you're not protect the person you were about to protect, you will hurt them more.

2006-09-29 20:20:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Yes the truth does hurt but sometimes is best to know the truth

2006-09-29 20:18:23 · answer #7 · answered by Meow 5 · 0 0

the truth hurts. but a friend's betrayal hurts 10x worst. friends watch out for each other's best interest even if it means having to hurt them a little by telling them the truth--cuz ultimately, it's better to have come from you than elsewhere.

2006-09-29 20:54:42 · answer #8 · answered by hello_out_there 2 · 0 0

No, we shouldn't lie to protect others, even the truth hurt, he/she have the right to know, such as having a serious disease, what we need to do is to support him/her in such condition.

2006-09-29 20:19:27 · answer #9 · answered by CLKC 1 · 0 0

Love without honesty is sentimentality. Honesty without love is cruelty. Tell the truth, but temper it with compassion.

2006-09-29 20:18:58 · answer #10 · answered by Buffy Summers 6 · 0 0

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