any of them
2006-09-29 12:56:51 · 7 answers · asked by Proud to be LDS 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Other - Holidays
i know that i'm not nessasaraly looking forward to them i just means that over a yaer will have passed since my brother died
2006-09-29 13:00:38 · update #1
it is not that i'm sad, it's just that i don't exactlyunder stand how i am feeling
he died on Oct.1
2006-09-29 13:10:28 · update #2
More people than you can imagine don't look forward to the holidays.
They bring up past memories that aren't always very happy and it is at a time when everyone is acting happy and saying how happy the rest of us should be.
Personally, I think that the trick is to find your own way of coping. Now I am not advocating depression or isolation (unless that makes you feel better), but maybe adopting a new holiday tradition. Unfortunately, the holidays always mean a sore liver for me -- I like to drink away sadness. But that isn't healthy.
Everyone needs to find their own way. I'm sorry you lost someone, but do you think he would want you to be sad still? Remember him and celebrate his life.
That is only my opinion -- I absolutely do not know your situation and do not believe myself to usually be correct.
Find your peace.
2006-09-29 13:07:48 · answer #1 · answered by Chrissy: The Angry Typer a/k/a Mood Mole 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I 'm not, they start too early, I went to Kohls and they had Christmas trees up already. By the time the real thing arrives its so played out. and its not about anything anymore, peace nor love its about who got what; who spent how much on who, who ate turkey at whos house for how much money and instead we had prime rib and the house was a rented villa in Montego Bay.All of a sudden after all my years in the soup kitchens, now I see the Holidays have way too many yuppies turning up to "help" with friends as if it were atrip to the mall, because its the fashionable thing to be able to tell people you served the poor and homeless on the hoilday. What about all the other days and nights in the year where are these people THEN HUH? Its all a crock, NOT the holiday.. but the way people "use" it.
2006-09-29 20:10:39 · answer #2 · answered by micheleseptember 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really do not have any good childhood memories of the holidays.
i do not celebrate any of them anymore. not even my birthday.
my mother made the holidays such a stressful time in our house with the attitude that everything had to be perfect that i came to dread the end of the year.
the best thing about the holiday season is January 2 when i can look foreword to several months without a major holiday.
2006-09-29 20:06:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Missing your brother is okay. You can stand it. It's what you do because you still love him and always will. But your life goes on and other things will distract you, which is how it's supposed to be. He would want you to be happy as possible, I'm sure.
Accepting his death is part of how you learn to accept death, even your own. Life is even more precious because we only have it for a little while. Live your life fully! I know you can!
2006-09-29 20:23:03 · answer #4 · answered by beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since my grandmother passed in 98', I don't do holidays the same anymore. Not really interested in celebrating at all. She was the only person that truly cared for me.
2006-09-29 20:35:38 · answer #5 · answered by PRINCESSE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never had liked any holidays. Not even summer ones. Too many memories
2006-09-29 20:00:36 · answer #6 · answered by kerry9477 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, they can get quite expensive especially if you have to travel also.
2006-09-29 19:58:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋