please help me i have a boyfriend of a year and was previously married for four yrs. i have had several sexual experiences and i am confident in my body so i have no problem with sex. i have a problem with having the big O i have never experienced one. i can only have them from oral sex. i need some serious answers cause this is causing problems for my partner and i just recently told him that i had been faking it the whole time. i dont feel its anything he is doing wrong its me because i have always been this way. PLEASE HELP i want to experience what i always hear about!!!
2006-09-29 12:47:42 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
I know you asked for a woman's opinion, but I am someone who deals with these type of issues on a daily basis. Helping both men and women enjoy sex on a greater level. First, if you are on birth control, you may want to go to your doctor and see about changing it. Birth control are hormones, which can lessen your chance of having an orgasm, due to the change in hormones, and it will also prevent blood flow to the g-spot. Second, it may be your lover at fault. Great lovers are not born, they are taught. So teach him what makes you feel good and how to stroke you right, and once he hits that spot let him know so he can stay there. One easy way to get an orgasm from penetration is in the missionary position with a pillow under your butt. At this position, it will tilt your vagina back at an angle. During intercourse in this position, the penis would be able to hit the g-spot easier, thus creating more stimulation. You will notice the difference from first penetration. If you have any additional questions, you can contact me on the web site listed below. We do have a live chat feature to help.
2006-09-29 13:08:48 · answer #1 · answered by lignebur72 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, for starters... relax... both of you need to enjoy the act of sex and not stress so much, hoping that you get off. Okay, now that you've done that, try having oral sex until you feel yourself right on the edge, and then have him enter you. While he's inside of you, have him (or you can, if you like) keep stimulating your clitoris... I'm sure this will work out! And, once both of you feel comfortable with this method, you can try new ways! Good luck!
2006-09-29 21:10:08 · answer #2 · answered by black_beauty18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find a radio station that plays Dr. Drew. he will tell you MOST 90% of women do not have the O with sex they get it with oral, so you are perfectly normal, I know you can't have oral everytime, but direct stimulation to your "C" will work also, that is how oral works it is direct stimulation.
2006-09-29 19:53:04 · answer #3 · answered by Jennifer Dalpe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, I will tell you my trick. If I let it all up to him, I wouldnt "o" at all. I find that I actually have to do a lot of work to get there. I find that doing breathing exercises (holding my breath and letting out after about 10 seconds) and some vaginal clenching (like Kegel exercises) really gets me there. Also, I have to have my eyes closed. I dunno why. Plus, the pillow under the butt, or just lifting your pelvis up REALLY helps. This is something that NOBODY ever told me...and I don't know if I'm just weird, but I can tell you that I "OOOO" every time!!!
2006-09-29 20:40:06 · answer #4 · answered by sxysparkler 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can only get off on top. Your in control and you can find the spot easier. Give it a little bit though, don't be to anxious and when you start to feel it(you'll know what I mean) don't stop for nothing, keep on until your body colapses on his. It's the most amazing feeling. Hope this helps I just got one this morn. (well 'bout everyday)
2006-09-29 19:54:37 · answer #5 · answered by babygirl4 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try not to focus on getting an orgasm during sex, think about how good everything feels. sometimes the stress and pressure of feeling the need to orgasm makes it a little more difficult
2006-09-29 21:43:03 · answer #6 · answered by amcol_soc07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's hard to have the "big O" from just intercourse. Just tell your bf how you are able to have one, and you can always try other ways, but faking it isn't fair to either of you.
2006-09-29 19:54:46 · answer #7 · answered by lisa s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋