My husband and i talked brieflyabout kids and he knows how much i want another child but he keeps telling me we will talk about it later, but never do. He has three (ages 16,6,2)and i have one child (age 3) of my own.i love them all, but i want another of my own.Everytime i turn around pregnancy is on, tv, magazines, and all around me. everytime i see that i want to ask him when are we going to try but i am afraid he doesn't want to have more.i asked him how about around february,because that's my yearly checkup, still no answer. how can i stop thinking about it? this is driving me crazy. I try and make joke about how he is being stingy and i would probably be to old to have more; but he seems to be irritated about it. what do i do?
2006-09-29 12:43:22 · 12 answers · asked by cocoaandknine 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
This is something really important to you and you need to let your husband know. Its not worth fighting over but just choose a good time to talk to him and let him know how much you would love another child.
His feelings are important too and if he really doesnt want another find out why. It could be that he is worrying about finances. Men often do. Or maybe he feels he already has enough on his plate.
Really good communication is always the best way. Often men just arent good in this area, but it is up to us to continue trying to communicate and let them know it is important. Sometimes its not until we are in tears (as in crying) until our men realise we really need to talk.
Also being obesessed with something is not a nice feeling either is it? It feel as though you cant control it. Try to get on with other things in your life. Find a hobby, activity or sport that you love to do and use that to distract you from this obsession.
When it is meant to happen it will. I know our hormones often just go crazy for children. How about the many women out there that have been wanting children but cant conceive. It is important for us to remember how lucky we are and to be grateful that we have children. Try to be thankful for what you have and concentrate on living for now. This will also help to stop obsessing about having a baby.
All the best
2006-09-29 13:02:28 · answer #1 · answered by Nic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, together you have four children. Ask him seriously sometime if he would consider having one more as you only have one child. It would mean a lot to you. He has one as young as 2, so you guys haven't been together very long. And he also has one 16 which probably was from his first relationship. You must see where he is coming from. He doesn't want more not knowing if you guys are going to make it. Talk seriously and think about his possible concerns too. Good luck and I understand you wanting one more because you only have one.
2006-09-29 12:50:11 · answer #2 · answered by flower 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? I would just relax. If it is meant to happen, then it will. I don't think stressing over the situation like that is probably too healthy for you. Also remember that you have other beautiful children that I'm sure love you very much. Some people cannot even have 1 child. You are very blessed for your family. If you family is meant to grow, it will happen. I wish you the best!
2006-09-29 12:48:53 · answer #3 · answered by vmarie84 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I tried for 17 yrs to become preg.....not sure if this is your circumstance. But i finally gave up and enjoyed the art of making babies and before i knew it BAMMMMM we conceived a beautiful baby girl! Get involved with a hobby, go out and enjoy yourself doing something, because when you are blessed with a baby, you will wish you had taken the time for yourself and not put so much emphasis's on making a baby.
2006-09-29 12:49:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know its hard, but if you believe in God, put it in his hands. Ultimately, he is the one who decides if you will have another child. Even if you want more and its not in his plans for you then it won't happen. I am trying to conceive, and have realized that I need to relax and if it is God's will, then it will happen when the time is right. If you rush it then you may not be in the right place to have another at that time.
2006-09-29 13:41:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know the feeling! I would love to have a baby of my own as well, but my boyfriend will not talk to me about it seriously. He gives me cop-out answers like "maybe one day"... He tells me he'd love for me to be the mother of his children, but he already has a child with this one complete psycho path and I'm afraid she has ruined it for everyone. So, my advice to you is to tell him that you really need his input, that this is important to you. If he still refuses to talk to you, tell him that you feel like he doesn't care about your feelings and he needs to strongly consider whether or not you are important to him.
2006-09-29 15:04:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to relax, go for a holiday and pamper yourself, the more relaxed you'll be, the more able to conceive !! Good luck dear !!
2006-09-29 22:06:33 · answer #7 · answered by Butterfly girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-25 03:06:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you should just talk to your husband and tell him what you think. If that doesn't work just stop thinking about it!
2006-09-29 12:48:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make him talk. Corner him somewhere. My hubby pulls the "we will talk about it later" stuff too. You need to know what he thinks!
2006-09-29 12:47:31 · answer #10 · answered by emmadropit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋