Who do they do it? Because the chase is over? They caught their man now they can throw in the towel and get fat and squirt out some kids so as to make sure they don't have to work? I hate to stereotype, but I've seen this happen countless times with wives of friends and co-workers. Please enlighten me, ladies. And be honest.
2006-09-29 12:38:16 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You are correct sir!! However women will not admit it. It's very hard to admit the truth. And one thing you forgot, they forget what sex is after getting "the baby prize"
2006-09-29 14:42:28 · answer #1 · answered by rank_peeler 2 · 2⤊ 5⤋
There are several reasons for this type of behavior.
1. They do feel the chase is over and feel that there is no reason to work so hard to look nice anymore. *This is a VERY small percentage of women! Most fall into category 2....
2. After getting married, men also stop trying hard to impress their woman and tend to stop acting sweet & nice & kind & gentle and all the things they were before marrying. Then on top of that stark realization (that the honeymoon is OVER), many women tend to feel VERY unattractive after having a baby and need more love, attention and positive reinforcement from their man. Men don't understand why they should feel any different and so they don't change their behavior at all. So instead of losing the fat gained naturally during pregnancy, the women shut down emotionally and just don't give a damn anymore, except to take care of their baby.
This is NOT to say that men are at fault for this phenomenon.
But the blame can be shared.
Men are naturally not quite as "in tune" with others' needs as women are and therefore do not clue into the fact that they need to continue to be just as loving and as wonderful as they were when the "chase was still on". This is important and is a necessity in keeping a marriage alive, happy, open and loving.
Women unfortunaetly are driven a lot by hormones and emotional matters. If they feel that their man has stopped caring as much as he did before, it takes a toll on a woman's heart and soul. And when they are at their morst vulnerable and weakest (i.e. during pregnancy and after childbirth), they need more love and understanding than ever before. But she also needs to be understanding of her own body, sanity and strength. And she needs to ASK for what she needs from her partner instead of just assuming that he should know what she needs. Communication is again another very important key to a successful relationship.
So there you have it - it's a two way street, as all conflicts are.
2006-09-29 19:56:02 · answer #2 · answered by The Lizard Queen 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
After you been with some one for so long looks aren't recognized as much. I remember when my guy always told me i was pretty or sexy, after a while they just get use to it. its no longer new. Also when you start living together it can be uncomfortable doing grooming things infront of guys or the exact oppiste you become comfortable and that magic is gone. Men can let themselve go too, and if he isn't bothering to look good for me why should i for him? Also when the compliments stop coming, the little gifts and dates aren't happening you don't give us a reason to dress up and look good. Those were the reason we did that.
And the kids thing; men can want kids as much as women and some don't want their wives to work. They feel they should stay at home and care for the kids. Some men still have that mind set. And its kind of pig headed to say they have kids so they don't have to work. Raising a kid is alot of work. Something you don't have expience with since you don't even recognize raising another human being from scratch as 'work". Also women feel guilty going back to work (you have no idea how much redicule a mom can go through for not being at home with the kids, or how guilty she feels when she misses their first steps and words becuase of work). Short hair usually happens becuase of the kids. You never have time for yourself, so you don't have the time to style your hair and the kids end up throwing something in it and pulling on it so its just easier to make it short. What wrong with short hair anyways? There's plenty of women who aren't married with children thathave short hair. And in case you didn't know when a woman becomes pregnant she gains wieght and its not always easy to get off especially when you can't go to the gym 5 days a week anymore.
2006-09-29 20:07:10 · answer #3 · answered by akwardlykewl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree it happens, but I also see that many men gain weight as well. I think it is true that it is due in part to the "comfort" factor and knowing that you now have a man. But I also think it is because women cook more and make big meals for their husbands. Of course, if both would agree to turn off the tv and take up a physical activity together, much of the weight gain could be prevented. As you age, metabolism slows and it becomes More and more challenging to maintain a healthy weight. Exercise is key : )
2006-09-29 19:54:15 · answer #4 · answered by schweetums 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's part of the trend that married couples tend to look more alike as time goes by, so women have to conform to look like their shorn fatty husbands.
That, or else maybe malicious elves.
2006-09-29 19:49:16 · answer #5 · answered by Koko Nut 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Quick call the AMA and alert them of this terrible disease maybe they casn stop everyone from making this terrible mistake. Oh my i never knew that was the cause of short hair and weight gain. I thought that happened cause you have kids. you gain weight and the hair gets cut cause you dont havetime to deal with it any more. You are a genius I will have to tell my friends about this new problem with getting maried maybe we will all just stay just the way we are - single to avoid this distressful symptoms.
2006-09-29 19:48:54 · answer #6 · answered by gem753 3 · 5⤊ 2⤋
It's because they become comfortable with who they are and don't feel like they have to put on a show. It's not every woman either. Everyone goes through changes and most women want to keep things changing so their men don't get bored;
2006-09-29 19:46:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
To be a wife and a mother is a hard job .When you want to do a hard work what you do ?You just get ready .... and do the job !!!
2006-09-29 19:55:45 · answer #8 · answered by bashka_515 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
The same reason men gain weight, belch and fart after the wedding!
2006-09-29 19:46:53 · answer #9 · answered by peg 5 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Yes. You figured out our secret. Write a book and make a million dollars, genius.
2006-09-29 19:44:37 · answer #10 · answered by Kim S 2 · 5⤊ 3⤋