My fiancee and I have been together for 7 years. Just found out I am about 12 weeks pregnant with #1. He's a very manly guy, but is terrified of blood! No kidding, he gets queasy if he cuts his own finger! It's hard for me to even have typical discussions with him. How do I prepare him for what to expect in the delivery room! I'm scared (and he's scared) he'll see one bit of blood and pass out on the hard floor! Ouch! He would die if he knew I was sharing this with all of you! Ha Ha! Please share your experiences!
2006-09-29 12:37:07 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
As a man, I can understand how your fiancee feels. I know that he and I are in a minority, but I am the same way. I KNOW beyond any shadow of a doubt that I would pass out if I had to be in the delivery room. I once passed out when my grandmother was in the hospital, after watching the monitors she was on. Please understand that if he says that he can't get over his problem, he is not saying that to get out of going into the delivery room with you, and it is not that he does not love you enough to do this, but to some of us this is a serious problem that we can't get over.
2006-09-29 12:56:37 · answer #1 · answered by quagi m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poor guy! For the longest time, my husband wouldn't even say the word "tampon", let alone go to the store and buy them. If the conversation revolves around my uterus, he changes the sugect. Men are such weenies! He got upset when I went to the OB for my first pelvic! I think it will be a big surprise when our baby comes out. All the cheesiness and blood and screaming. He will probably hit the floor.
2006-09-29 12:45:17 · answer #2 · answered by emmadropit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should consider having someone else in the delivery room-a passed out daddy will be no help. I had my mom and my hubby with me cause I was afraid my hubby would pass out. He didn't and was actually amazed at all I had to go through. It gave him a lot of appreciation for me. maybe a best friend or your mom could come too? Your fiance may need emotional support as much as you do to see you in pain.
2006-09-29 12:41:59 · answer #3 · answered by Alison 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps it would be best if he waited in the waiting room. Although, this is one of those events that nobody who is a father should miss. Maybe, have him focus more on you (i.e. you face) and let the doctors take care of the goings on at the other end.
I know that personally, I was right at the exit zone for all 3 of my children and my first son came out via cesarean. A truly amazing experience.
2006-09-29 12:44:29 · answer #4 · answered by the_green_grass_horse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As your pregnancy progresses hopefully he will start to get excited about the delivery. Especially after he sees ultrasounds of the baby.
2006-09-29 12:39:31 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've hear that from sooooo many expectant parents but in the end , the guy usually steps up to the plate!
2006-09-29 12:41:51 · answer #6 · answered by cooker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounded just like my husband!!! He just didn't look he stayed by my head and looked at me almost the whole time. My baby wasn't that bloody though. What helped him was watching the baby show on TLC. I taped it during the day and we would watch it at night together. He will do fine my husband did!!! Good luck!!!
2006-09-29 12:46:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get your ob to talk to him your doctor needs to be aware of this. so that he knows what to expect from him. your doctor can put him at ease talk to your doctor . my huuby had the same problem but he got sick after
2006-09-29 12:41:23 · answer #8 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he can't handle it he might have to cheer you on from the waiting room.
2006-09-29 12:41:08 · answer #9 · answered by Happy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i was you i would have him by your head so you can squeez his hand and then he wouldnt have to see the blood
2006-09-29 12:40:15 · answer #10 · answered by jennifertrinitysky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋