my cousin paula moved to my town 3 months ago and i introduced her to some of my friends. my mate janet got on really well with her (i thought she would) and they swapped numbers to go for lunch.
janet recently had her hair cut. it was really long and now she has the same shortish highlighted style as my cousin. shes never liked short hair on women.
her music taste has changed from cheesy pop and dance to coldplay and u2 (my cousins favourite bands) even though she couldnt stand music like that before.
janets clothes have also become more colourful and lower cut like my slimmer cousins clothes.
me and my cousin are getting really worried about this now what can we do to stop her?
2006-09-29 12:18:12 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
do you know how brain numbing you are?
2006-09-29 12:20:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
well janet looks up to paula,but to blatantly copy someone is a bit er weak to me anyway,its like some guy just said,in this world there's leaders & followers..janet needs to find herself & her own style,maybe she has hang ups u say paula is slimmer..depends how far it goes,if it gets worse I should think a quiet word should embarrass her into stopping,if it dont then tell me where u live so I never go there!
2006-09-29 19:45:54 · answer #2 · answered by Chocoholic 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is it wrong for her to have an idol, or like someone elses taste? Alot of people in this world are influence by others. As long as she not doing anything to harm herself or others then let her have a freind to look up too and admire. Even if you might not like the way she has changed be a freind and stick it out. People change all the time, be happy she is happy.
2006-09-29 19:22:32 · answer #3 · answered by c_loll 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you are upset that your friend is obviously impressed by your cousin. Imitation is the highest form of flattery. I don't think your cousin is worried and neither should you be. Your friend will soon discover it is best to just be herself.
2006-09-29 19:44:55 · answer #4 · answered by Chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister is like that. She hated rap until my cousin was listening to it and she thought he was cool. So she listened. She tried Weed because he did. She acts like him, talks like him, And Lalaa... We dont exactly know how to stop her. But you can try talking to her about being an indivudial. Or make your cousin do something really stupid that your friend will do too. Then maybe she will learn her lesson. :D
2006-09-29 19:22:54 · answer #5 · answered by Angie 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nothing, why stop her, she just admires your cousin and want to be just like her, she likes her style and wishes to be just like her; your friend is a follower and your cousin is a leader. There's nothing wrong with that...
2006-09-29 19:37:37 · answer #6 · answered by BABY LOONEY 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your cousin could wear something totally wierd (if she's the daring type) and see if your friend copies her.if she does then you could ask her straight out why is she doing it or your cousin could ask her "do you still like u2?" and if your friend would say yes then your cousin could go:"really? they are so last season.i like.............." and then see what your friend would say.but you should probably just ask her nicely why does she like exactly the same things as your cousin.
2006-09-30 05:15:33 · answer #7 · answered by silvi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she just wants to be accepted. I think maybe your being a bit harsh. And maybe your a little jealous. Maybe not. Anyway live n let live eh.
2006-09-29 19:24:59 · answer #8 · answered by Mean Mr Mustard 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She finds your cousins uniqueness intriguing and admires her individuality so she wants to be different like her.
Ironic huh?
2006-09-29 19:23:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
lol
sorry thatz a good question but no answer here
hey try making your cousin
put fake pimples on her face which will cause ur friend 2 try also then jus laugh
2006-09-29 19:22:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
been there, really just go on doing your thing, she just has a low self asteem try pushing special things only for her that would work for her. but unfortantly I still go through with it to this day she even buys the same car I have but a different color,
2006-09-29 19:22:53 · answer #11 · answered by jojoB 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋