There were 5 women, talking badly about my so-called friend, like a DOG! & I went to inform her about it, & she said I was gossipping, & her friend butted in the conversation & said that it's malicious gossip on MY part & not the other womens' parts. I was trying to help the poor woman, not hurt her. BTW, she's hypomanic, meaning that she's always high, jumpy, & excited & talks nonsense & talks a hole in another person's head.
2006-09-29 12:12:58 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
No, you were trying to be a friend. If it were gossip, you would have joing in with the first 5 women. If I were you, I would dump your so called friend.
2006-09-29 12:15:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yea, I work with a guy like that at work, but I think you mean hypermanic, not hypo, because the prefix hypo means under or below normal.
I think you were just trying to put her on guard by making her aware of what some not so nice people were saying about her. But, remember what they do to the messenger. And maybe it was painful for your friend to have to bare these vicious and scurrilous insults, especially if the gossip was coming from women she thought were her friends or at least that there existed some semblance of mutual respect and tolerance. When you told her these things, it hurt. I mean, trade places with her for a moment.
Sometimes people like to let their so-called "friends" know what someone else said about them just to get a reaction from them. This is very hurtful.
Your last "BTW" sentence about your "friend" does concisely give away your true feelings for her. And as grievous as it may sound, who knows what these catty women may be saying about you when you're not around to "bird-dog" their conversation.
I'm sure you're a really nice person and mean well, but my dad used to say,"if you can't say something nice about someone, just don't say anything at all."
Try to let this go, and do something Monday that will bring some healing and harmony back into the equation.
2006-09-29 19:54:29 · answer #2 · answered by soulguy85 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that it was the other women who were guilty of malicious gossip. The definition of gossip is "idle talk or rumor, especially about the personal or private affairs of others." Another definition is to "go about tattling." So, yes, in a sense, you were "gossiping," but only to inform your friend of what was going on.
Sometimes it is best in a situation like this, not to tell your friend, but to stand up to the women who were maligning her in support of her.
2006-09-29 19:48:05 · answer #3 · answered by J.Z. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definition
1.) Rumor or talk of a personal, sensational, or intimate nature.
2.) A person who habitually spreads intimate or private rumors or facts.
3.) Trivial, chatty talk or writing.
4.) A close friend or companion.
I do not think that you are a gossip, and it does not sound like she is a friend. You can find better friends. If she does not accept that you are trying to inform her about others are speaking badly, she does not deserve you as a friend.
2006-09-29 19:41:47 · answer #4 · answered by croc hunter fan 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you did the right thing by telling her. You also could have told the other women to stop talking about her badly. If your so-called friend doesn't like you standing up for her, than she's not your friend.
2006-09-29 19:20:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
absolutely not. you were just informing your "friend" about others gossiping about her behind her back. I don't know what her problem was, but it's best you found out the truth about her now, as compaired to her showing you her real colors when it really would've hurt you.
2006-09-29 19:21:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you telling your so-called friend wasn't gossip...... you telling millions of people on yahoo about her hypomanic behavior IS gossip.
2006-09-29 19:15:50 · answer #7 · answered by woody sims 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you did not participate but you listened and did not defend her. I would have said something to protect my friends honor. So yes you were wrong. Blessings
2006-09-29 19:16:09 · answer #8 · answered by datalov3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You weren't gossiping before, but now you are with that last sentence :)!
2006-09-29 19:14:51 · answer #9 · answered by Barbara G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it depends on if you made the same statement to the women as you just made to us
2006-09-29 19:20:56 · answer #10 · answered by foxxylesley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋