This is a delicate situation. My boyfriend keeps giving rides to this girl, his friend's girlfriend almost every day and it's really bothering me first because he didn't tell me about it in the beginning, and second because before he was always telling me how I should be more like her, and she's so great etc so that made me feel really insecure. I feel like he likes her more than me but can't be with her because she's his friend's girlfriend. She's actually a nice person but I just can't help the way I feel about that. I know I'm maybe too jealous, so he tells me but I can't help it. He knows I don't like him giving her rides all the time but he still does it, he even gives her his car while he's at work. He says he will do it no matter how I feel about it and what I say. Am I overreacting? Should I blame him for making me feel insecure about myself?
2006-09-29 11:39:45 · 34 answers · asked by Jennifer S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
do you mean a ride in his car? assuming that that's what you meant, he probably likes her, but can't date her because she's his friends girlfriend, so he wants you to be more like her as a substitute. he gives her rides because he wants to be as close to her as he can. I don't think you should put up with that, so do what you've gotta do, it'll get better once you drop him and get with a guy that loves YOU. be where you're suppose to be, the way you're suppose to be.
2006-09-29 11:52:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
First how long have you been going out? My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years and he knows no other girl should be in his truck than me or family. If your boyfriend kept this from you at first, yeah I would be upset. If It was not a big deal he should have told you. And he should never compare you to another girl, he should like you for who you are and that is why he is with you. You are not being to jealous, that is your man with a girl you really don't know and he should consider your feelings. Just think how would he feel if the situation was turned around.
2006-09-29 11:52:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 08:47:57 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly you are most definately not being jealous infact you were right feeling a bit insecure as he is playing you for a mug.In other words he is totally missusing the trust between both of you.If you have suggested to him that having another woman in your relationship fine by you then you have given him the go ahead to be with any other woman which also goes fot you too. but if you want to be in a deep and meaningful relationship then both of you should be only be with each other then all insectities will never appear.i wish you all the luck in the world
2006-09-29 11:55:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't put up with it but I'm probably alot older than you and know better - not to say there's anything going on but something isn't right. First things first, - he's telling you to be more like her, screw that. That is an insult - not because she is a bad person - you say she's nice - but for the reason that he is dating you. Why don't you tell him he should be more like Johnny Depp or Brad Pitt or who knows. If he continues to give her rides and loan her his car then so be it. I don't think he is really in to you as a girlfriend. Honey, there are so many others out there that you don't have to put up with this crap - this one is crap. Good Luck to you.
2006-09-29 11:49:55 · answer #5 · answered by Maggie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you need to do, is suck it up and call it off with him. There is obviously some feelings that he feels for her. It's not your fault or even his fault, that's the way love is. You really need to break if off with him, because your just in the back seat while he still caters to his ex, they probably have a bond that you can't compete with. There are many men out there, don't keep yourself limited to someone who's not going to put you first! Good luck!
2006-09-29 11:43:55 · answer #6 · answered by sweet_truth 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have the right to be jealous, next time he decides to take any girl home. Tell him you want to go with, if you need a excuse just tell him you want to get out of the house, and spend some time with him. Go out for coffee or even dinner. Good luck.
2006-09-29 11:52:56 · answer #7 · answered by margie j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok,
well him telling you is an obvious sign that he does like something about her. And any guy who tells you to change, should not be with you. Because if you change then you just wouldn't be you! No you are not overreacting. Just confront him calmy when no one is around about the situation. Also does his friend know how this is all happening?
2006-09-29 11:42:20 · answer #8 · answered by ALI 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweety... your boyfriend is trying to hookup with this girl.
The reason he gives her rides is because that is the only time he gets to spend with her.
Since he has already said he will continue to do this no matter what you need to tell him that you are now going to start seeing other guys. If he hasn't kissed/fondeled/gotten into her pants yet.. its only a matter or time.
Just tell him and end the relationship.
2006-09-29 11:51:07 · answer #9 · answered by .... 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok NewsFlash, Hon! He is being a total jerk! If he knows that you don't like it and he is still doing it then he obviously doesn't care about your feelings. And letting her use his car while he is working???? I don't think so....Also, he didn't tell you about it in the beginning, and is comparing you to her. He wants you to be more like her etc....He sounds like he is totally crushing on her and doesn't give a rats behind what you think or say about it.....I am sorry to have to say that, but in my opinion he is being a jerk and you deserve someone better.....Maybe flirt with his best friend and let them two be together...lol....Good Luck!
2006-09-29 11:44:29 · answer #10 · answered by Brown_Eyed_Girl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋