alright well a while ago like probably 7 months or something my best friend got really mad at me because i asked somebody for advice anonomysly about her. She wanted to start doing things that we both believe are wrong. Well i talked to her about it and she told me she just needed her time and space..so i said alright just know ill always be here for you. well that was like 7 months ago and ive tried a ton of things since then to fix the friendship but they have all failed badly. Right now in school we have almost every class together and we sit by each other we just never talk..shes not mad at me anymore though, but she just like acts as though i dont exist and never looks over at me or anything...we have almost all the same friends too. so whenever im around her she'll act like normal but it's like she treats me like a person she's never met before. well i dont know what to do anymore and im out of ideas. should i just wait and give her more time and let this sort itself out or what?
2006-09-29 11:35:28 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
write her a letter the best way to do something thoughtful and meaningful is by writing a letter
2006-09-29 11:38:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, Jess, real friends are very much in demand, but it doesn't happen very often that people come accross a true friend. I think, if your friendship is going to work out that you should be the stronger woman of the two of you and confront her assertively and see what can be done, or undone as the case may be, to mend your friendship and explain that your friend means very much to you and you just want to know what YOU can do to help fix the problem. Sometimes in friendships you will have troubles and someone may have to step up to the plate and lay everything down on the table.
Good Luck Jess,
A friend
2006-09-29 11:45:59 · answer #2 · answered by Angelika Marchelle Starr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had the good sense to realize that your friend wanted to do things that YOU knew were wrong, more than likely she's mad because you let someone else know about those things, ,, what advice did you get ? Why would you want to be friends with someone who is going to involve you in things that YOU KNOW ARE WRONG ? She didn't want you as a Friend honey, she wanted you for an accomplice--someone who would take the heat for her..if needed..
2006-09-29 11:42:26 · answer #3 · answered by angeleyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is probably still mad at you,you should take her somewhere were the two of you can sit down and talk things out .tell her how she makes you feel when she acts like that towards you .tell her that you still value the friendship and don't want her to still be mad at you tell her you got worried about her and wanted to help her.if she still wants space then all you can do after that is wait when you tell her how you feel she'll come around she might even tell why shes beaning acting towards you
2006-09-29 11:49:43 · answer #4 · answered by horsnetnet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you went behind her back and she is probably emabarrased about others knowing what she was considering doing.
that was seven months ago just let it go and move on if she wishes to talk to you then she will.
dont beg its very umbecoming.
maybe she inteded for you too keep it private but unfortunately she was unable to handle that someone else knows even though you have stated that you did not metion her name.
just let it go, like i said if she wants to be your friend then she will follow other than that just let her know your there if she needs someoen to talk to. if you are able to do that. then start moving forward and start living your life.
ok
there are tons of people out there that need friends.
just give her space and respect her on her choice to do what she feels she should.
2006-09-29 11:54:34 · answer #5 · answered by concrete water 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u should tell her that u went to get advice because u didn't know where to get advice. She has to undersatnd that u really want to be her friend and that at the time u asked for advice u wanted to maintain the frienship well without doing something that might upset her.
2006-09-29 11:39:23 · answer #6 · answered by ☺collia☺ PaRtY LiKe tInKeRbElL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are times when we just need to let go - this sounds like one of them. You have let her know you are there for her - that is all you can do. Don't worry about it any more - cultivate new friendships. If she wants you back in her life - she'll let you know.
Understandingly,
RT
2006-09-29 11:39:25 · answer #7 · answered by RT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try sending her a little card in the mail...or giving her one in person that expresses how much you really do miss her and the friendship you once shared.
2006-09-29 11:39:45 · answer #8 · answered by Dalia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she's that mad at you then i don't think she's worth it!!
i went through the same thing not to long ago and i just said that she's not worth it!! so ya i'd say if you want to try one more time then go for it but i don't think it's worth it!!
2006-09-29 11:40:03 · answer #9 · answered by Mater_rocks!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to talk to her and find out what her deal is! she may be trying to ignore u cause she thinke u did some thing or too popular
2006-09-29 11:41:24 · answer #10 · answered by Cari 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋