I am due in 8 weeks, and my husband won't touch me hold me, kiss me or anything. Whats wrong?
2006-09-29 11:35:24 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Well, I don't know what's normal for your husband, but when my wife was pregnant I couldn't keep my hands off of her.
2006-09-29 11:38:12 · answer #1 · answered by spongeworthy_us 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's hard to say, I don't really know your husband, so I'm not familiar with his behavior habits. But it is a possibility that he is scared of what is going to happen. With my husband he was always over joyed with feeling the baby move and grew even more excited with each day that passed and grew nearer to our children's deliveries.
I've also read that if a husband and wife have been married for a long period of time with no children,before becoming pregnant with there first child, that the husband will almost be jealous and angry at the new arrival for taking up his wives attention and time.
So maybe he is already starting to feel that way. Also he could feel somewhat neglected or angry because being you are so far along you are unable to do everything that you used to as a wife for him.
I'm sure when the big day arrives and he sees his new babies face then he will be over whelmed with joy and forget about his attitude. Good luck, and God bless!
2006-09-29 11:44:45 · answer #2 · answered by John&Heidi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I have 2 small children and all I can do is tell you my experience with reeling him in. Including him in everything about baby-maybe you already do this- but the more connected you two are the better. Talk about your future as a family and what special traditions you both want to carry on. Does he go to Dr, appts. with you...talking to the Dr. may ease some anxieties he's having as the time is getting closer? Maybe he's jealous of all the attention you're getting and he needs to brought into the limelight as well. It's not you, maybe he just needs to know he's needed. If he's distant now...please enjoy these last few weeks of alone time with your hubby because once baby comes-unless maybe you have grandparents living near- alone time will be hard to come by. I hope this helps you guys. Good Luck.
2006-09-29 11:55:28 · answer #3 · answered by jj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my God, I am having the same problem with my husband and I asked my husband what was the problem and he said that he is tired. That's bullshit!!! He makes me feel like I am so ugly..
My husband has not touched me for 8 month's, he does not realize that I need the love now, not after I have the baby..
I told him that I am will not be pregnant for ever and when I do have the baby do not touch me. I also asked him if he had a girlfriend and he said that I was being ridicoulous... You should talk to your husband to find out what his problem is.. (Good Luck)!!!!
2006-09-29 12:29:52 · answer #4 · answered by Vicky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's maybe a bit frightened of how to get close to you, sometimes they don't want to squeeze too hard or hold you too tight just in case (jokes aside). It's a freaky time for the dads to be too - new baby in the house, are they going to be able to do all the Dad things ie nappies, feeding etc and if your not feeling too great then maybe he feels just plain old guilty that he can't do a lot to make you feel better? Its a strange time for your both but once the baby comes and you get back in your house and have a few days to yourselves to get settled in then it'll all work out fine. Good luck with it all.
2006-09-29 11:53:45 · answer #5 · answered by aza 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes men may feel that you are more fragile in a pregnant state, or they may be afraid of hurting the baby. Kissing and touching lead to sex and in order for a man to get through that time and not have sex, he may be trying to keep getting turned on, thinking he is doing this for you and the baby. I wouldn't worry about the distance unless it continues after the baby is born. Once you are ready for intimacy, let him know and see what happens. If the warmth in your relationship doesn't return, then it may be time for some counseling.
2006-09-29 11:44:58 · answer #6 · answered by Curious George 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He knows that someone will becoming into your family and he won't get as much attention that he gets right now from you. It will go away once he sees what the both of you have created. It's normal. Just reassure him that you love and care for him, and when the baby is sleeping then make it your time together. Also let him help with the baby as much as he want to just so he feels involved.
2006-09-29 11:38:47 · answer #7 · answered by medevilqueen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's probably worried; worried about you and the health of the baby. And he's probably just generally scared because it's a big, life changing event. I mean, I don't know any more about your situation, but a huge thing like having a baby could scare a guy if he was worried about the responsibility of becoming a father.
2006-09-29 11:40:05 · answer #8 · answered by Equichick 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it makes you feel any better, I am 21 weeks pregnant and my husband can't figure it out. I don't think it has set in. He can't keep his hands off though... go figure. With the first ones, I have heard that don't really realize they will be parents until a head is poking out. Men are weird.... Maybe reality is setting in?
2006-09-29 11:43:50 · answer #9 · answered by emmadropit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, this is not normal things. So far I know that Husband should beside the wife at this moment to give her encourage, love him, kiss him etc except physical relation.
2006-09-29 11:48:37 · answer #10 · answered by Mostaque 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋