I love my bf and he loves me very much. We've only been dating for 2 months. I love kissing him and I love being with him but sex is kinda bad. I think it's because we have no chemistry. So after a big fight, he wants to know if I love him as a friend or as more than a friend and do I wanna still be with him. I don't know what to do. I do love him but I don't know what kind of love it is. It hurts me to see him so hurt. Should I stay with him?
P.S. If we break up he doesn't even want to stay friends.
2006-09-29 11:21:50 · 16 answers · asked by ozo2004 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You say there's no chemistry so it sounds like you already know you're forcing something that's not there. You can love someone and not be IN LOVE w/ them. He says he doesn't want to even be friends but maybe in time he'll come around. I mean, you guys only have two months invested. Good luck.
2006-09-29 11:25:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think you guys should move on. because you guys are hurting each other. second if the sex is bad then can you image what it's going to be like in an year. you and only you know and can figure out what kind of love it is. noone else. so if you still want to be with him tell him you need a little bit of space. so you can figure think out. how you feel. if you dont want to be with him then move on with your life. but stop dragging him along. you dont want to make it worse. so i hope this help. good luck.
2006-09-29 18:30:42 · answer #2 · answered by Melda R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe sleeping with a person you've only been with for 60 days is wrong. Calling it "love" with all this confusion and fighting and questioning each other and lacking chemistry isn't "love"- it was infatuation that burned out. End it, and stop sleeping with boys so quickly!
2006-09-29 18:26:01 · answer #3 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
me and my ex was in the same situation....but i was your bf this time. we love each other dearly but i believe the sexual chemistry is what threw us off. we dated 3 years on and off while he was away to the navy. just last week he said it wasnt working out but he loved me. i didnt want him to be with me if he wasnt happy. we are both still very confused on what went wrong so we took some time off. maybe it will be for the best...maybe we will get back together. what im trying to say is, try and take some time off...give each other some space, unless you truely love him and know that this can work. good luck
2006-09-29 18:27:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should end it. Follow your heart nobody else! But you clearly answered your own question; you have no chemistry! It isn't going to work out like that. If you cant be friends then he will be missing out. It will be harder to let him go later. Good Luck.
2006-09-29 18:31:41 · answer #5 · answered by Jes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk away. If you think the sex is bad after just two months then it's going to be unbearable after two years.
Let him move on.
2006-09-29 18:24:23 · answer #6 · answered by Gonrecht 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Teach him what he needs to know when you have sex. If he doesn't know what you like he can't do it.
Untrue to womens belief men are not mind readers.
As for staying with him after afight. Was it physical or verbal (hitting or mouthing off.) If physical leave him now... If verbal talk things over... I mean talk not lecture.
2006-09-29 18:31:37 · answer #7 · answered by my_iq_135 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To thine own self be true....... in other words, settle your own wants and needs first. Then, once you are comfortable making your own decisions, and confident that you can make good decisions, you can take on caring for others emotions. So, no, you shouldn't stay with him, unless of course you are ready to resign yourself to a future of self deprivation and settling for less than absolute happiness.
2006-09-29 18:27:38 · answer #8 · answered by woody sims 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any time you are wondering if you should walk away you should.
EVERY time.
You said yourself you don't have any "chemistry".
learn from this and move on to the next guy. it really doesn't matter if he still wants to be freinds or not if you break up does it? you can't be EVERYones friend...
2006-09-29 18:27:48 · answer #9 · answered by .... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could go to a sexologist councilor (a psychologist in sex relations problems) if otherwise you really like him and only after that to reconsider.
2006-09-29 18:35:07 · answer #10 · answered by Paul Alexandru Cazacliu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋