step kids and non undrestanding husband .i argument after another allways over his kid s?

Question

i have been married for 17 years and all my husband does is tell me how i have let him down i have no desire to be sexly active with him .only due to having cancer cells to be removed and a hystorectomy .there fore i have no female organ to make me feel this way for a very long time .im sick off all the needels that i had to have have and my family are over it what can i do to get them to love and respect me like they used .to i have not been the best person to be around .i love my husband with all my heart ,some one help .he has a daughter who is 25 and has beaten me on a few time and her dad say,s that i asked for it .desperate what to do ,i have 3 childre to another person but hmy husaband has bought up all my kids for 18 years .and they find him to love his real kids more than he does them .his real kids give him nothing for fathers day or birhday nor xmas .the step daughter tells me her father owes her and he is going to pay she give sthe family nothing but strees

Answer 1

sit down with him and tell him everything dont hide your true feelings.

Answer 2

Ok if he beats you thats spoucial abuse you need to leave!!! Here is a check list.

2. Is the abuser ever known to have unpredictable, violent mood changes?

3. Does the abuser currently have weapons or quick access to them?

4. Is there a history of violence against people, besides the intimate partner and children (especially past relationships)?

5. Does the abuser ever brag about having killed or mutilated someone in the past?

6. Does the abuser ever "act out" in front of others?

7. Does the abuser ever attack children?

8. What are the current expectations of the abuser (is the victim expected to pick them up from work, be at home when the abuser calls, etc.)?

9. Does the abuser ever do the "unexpected"
(leave work early, call at odd times)?

10. List any current stalking behavior: (phone harassment, following the survivor, Internet stalking, searching everywhere for the victim).

11. Has the survivor recently left your shared dwelling?

12. If you’re not living together, was there a recent break-up?

13. Does the abuser currently believe the children are being "hidden" or taken away from them?

14. Does the abuser currently have the children and is the abuser known to have suicidal thoughts or behaviors?

15. Does the abuser display current violent behavior to other people's or the survivor's property?

16. Is the abuser currently holding belongings "hostage" to get the victim to survivor out of hiding or return? (e.g. children's toys, money, clothing, valued possessions.)

17. Is there currently unusual credit card or bank account activity?

18. Is the abuser currently trying to locate the survivor by saying there is death in family, claiming that children are hurt, or threatening suicide?

19. Have you recently initiated any protective actions like applying for an Injunction for Protection, of filing divorce papers? I f you answer yes to any of this get out. I realize it is hard but you need to leave a man who hits a women no mater how long you have been married to him well its just wrong. Find a battered womans task force center in your area and leave. It is not your fault. As for the other problems you need therapy for that.

Answer 3

Sounds like you could benefit from family counseling!

Answer 4

leave him

Answer 5

move on...