hi we have been marr for 2 years with 3 kids, from the start she has had problems with trust and love, so i have been understanding,and try to helpfull, i can never do any right in her eyes?!!shoul i stay or should i go? i want to stay! but it hurts me emontionaly.and she always wants us too fight in front our children. please help?
2006-09-29 11:19:08 · 12 answers · asked by brentt a 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Send the children by a relative for the weekend and take that free time to sit and find out what's at the core of her behaviour? Ask her if there's something your'e doing wrong. Let her know that you can't read minds so the only way you guys can work on the problem is if she tells you what it is. Tell her that you are trying your utmost to be the best husband but it seems as though that's all in vain because she's still unhappy and it's really bothering you, since your whole objective is to provide for both she and the children and make them happy. Tell her how much you love her and reassure her that you are not cheating on her because she's the love of your life and she holds a part of your heart that no other woman could ever find. Just be genuine and sincere, of course you have to find other things to say just to reassure her that u do love her. Offer to spend more time with her and help out around the house more. Set a schedule that both of you can work by and try to cooperate with each other more. Make sure that the communication between you guys is always fluid and tell her you love her everyday. If that fails then keep trying and if u feel as if it's too overwhelming, then take a break to let her sort her issues out. And if that still doesn't work then move on cause men like you are hard to find and i'm sure that there's someone out there who would feel honoured to have a man like you in their lives and would be more than willing to treat you the way you ought to be treated. BUT that's only if all the other options don't work.
2006-09-29 11:42:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
A healthy marriage is the key to raising stable and healthy children. If your wife is not happy and always wants to fight, especially in front of your children then your kids are going to grow up thinking that that is the right way. You need to think about this situation you are in. The best answer is just leave. When you are on your own and hopefully with someone who will respect and appreciate you maybe you will see that marriage is about giving and receiving not just giving all the time. Eventually this will start affecting you and the way you feel about yourself.
2006-09-29 18:31:04 · answer #2 · answered by xina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello brentt a,
You need to sit her down away from all the kids and have a talk with her. She's got some issues and if you don't talk about them, it's only going to get worse. You need to set down the law too, man. Marriage is a 50-50 deal and you need to be treated with respect too. It's not just about her.
Ask her what's going on and why is she treating you this way. Listen to her. You may have to be specific about times that she has hurt your feelings. Don't let her get into the habit of pulling this kind of cr@p on you. Maybe there's something that you're doing wrong that she has only been hinting to you to stop, but she needs to learn to tell you and not drop hints.
You are right to try to do what you can, but if you aren't happy with this situation you need to tell her that you are going to dump her, if she continues to mistreat you. Also, you need to not be afraid to dump her, if she continues to be a bi-tch.
I hope that this helps. Also, you need to check out the Tom Leykis radio show to learn more about what you should do. You definitely need to learn a little Leykis-101 to get more women in your life. Find out if this show is broadcast in your area. Here's his web site:
http://www.blowmeuptom.com
I hope that this helps you. Good luck and happy hunting.
--Rick
2006-09-29 18:34:03 · answer #3 · answered by rickrudge 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of that not love. there need to be trust in a marriage. second i would get help and if that doesnt work then move on. i know you said you love her but if she doesnt want to change for better then you cant help her. but i would leave for the sake of you and the kids. because it's not good for the kids to see that. anyway good luck and i hope this help.
2006-09-29 18:43:20 · answer #4 · answered by Melda R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Counseling is a good place to start,work from there.Her issues may go way back,so be prepared for a long journey,it'll be worth it in the end i'm sure:-)
2006-09-29 18:33:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no parent should fight with there kids present ,take her to the side ask her what the heck is your problem if you cant work it out between just you two then seek help
2006-09-29 18:35:35 · answer #6 · answered by just_me_1955 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first
DONT LEAVE
for the children pls
try some counseling or tell her i love you
and pls dont push me to another woman for loving comfort
i try and try pls make it easy 4 us as a family
so we dont end up w/ a broken home
2006-09-29 18:26:41 · answer #7 · answered by ez-goin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without help and without second-guessing this: Get marital counseling. End of story.
2006-09-29 18:30:06 · answer #8 · answered by badasslilnici 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should look deep into yourselves , did you give her a reason not to trust? she married you she does love you . everyone has issues
2006-09-29 18:23:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
is she loving someone else? find out and get some counselling..if she wont then reconsider this
2006-09-29 18:22:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋