hi we have been marr for 2 years with 3 kids, from she has had problems with trust and love, so i have been understanding,and try to helpfull, i can never do any right in her eyes?!!shoul i stay or should i go? i want to stay! but it hurts me emontionaly.and she always wants us too fight in front our children. please help?
2006-09-29 11:18:14 · 6 answers · asked by brentt a 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is ironic. I went through the same thing my friend. Our marriage was great until we had our second child, and before she turned 21. After these two events happened, it was all over. I too stayed in the relationship for quite sometime, but only for my children's sake. After a while however, I knew it had to end because of my children's sake. Letting go is very painful, but staying in a relationship that is not working, especially when young children are involved, is worse. Sorry to hear another marriage going south. Good luck in your decision, and what ever is meant to be is meant to be. Life will go on my good man!
2006-09-29 11:30:42 · answer #1 · answered by lifescircle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've invested 2 years and have 3 kids to worry about, you don't have the option to leave, if at the first sign of trouble you bolt then you are not being realistic in your view of Marriage. You should listen to WHY she is unhappy with you and try to see things from her point of view, do you reassure her to ease her insecurities? Trust is something that is in your hands.. you have control over that. As a Man, you should be the leader of the relationship and you need to work on it. You can't quit on her and your family. I know it hurts and anger turns into hate, but you need to be patient she is taking care of 3 kids and that is also a lot of pressure. Do you help her with chores and talk to her and make time to take her out at least once a week to make her feel like she is still your number one?? If all else fails, consider going to marriage counseling together. Maybe a third person can give you more insight into what is wrong between you two. Communication is Key. Good luck to you and your family.
2006-09-29 18:27:33 · answer #2 · answered by Soonie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why not get her into marriage counseling?
i am sure that she does have lots of issues - and perhaps she isn't aware of how her fault finding is hurtful to you
perhaps deep down she is testing you to see if you too will let her down - hang on in there and see if that makes a difference especially for the sake of the kids
2006-09-29 18:22:04 · answer #3 · answered by Aslan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
me personally i would go because if she wants you two to fight in front of your kids then that can scar your kids not only the two of you soo if you want to hurt your kids then stay with her
2006-09-29 18:20:45 · answer #4 · answered by ~Katie~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your pissing her off by the sounds of it...don't be too clingy, just back off for awhile and give her space to breath...she will come round in the end.
2006-09-29 18:38:23 · answer #5 · answered by Susie2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a friend and try to talk it out!!
2006-09-29 19:32:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋