Most all the answers I got about my cheating wife was "forgive her" Sorry, but I just can't.
2006-09-29 11:15:22 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why would you forgive her???? Unless you wanted to. You haven't, so divorce her, and move on. You call her ex, so I assume you are single now. I've been divorced from my cheating ex for 15 years, and haven't forgiven her. I haven't killed her, for the sake of my children, but I'd be happy to hear that she had contracted a hideous disease.
2006-09-29 12:17:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok.....don't forgive her. But you should know this: She did love you. She had no idea when you were going to come out of a coma. Three months can seem interminable. More than a year? She may have given up hope. And maybe the relationship was lapsing before any of this happened to you in any case. If so, a stressed marriage plus a husband who slips into a coma= a new opportunity. I realize you feel cheated. If I was coming out of a coma to find my husband divorced me and got custody of our daughter in the process and was off in a new relationship I'd be BITTERRRRRRRR but in the end, what can you do? You can remain stagnated and withered by your anger and bitterness or you can find a way to live a happier life. You have ONE life here, just one. How you want the rest of your years to go is up to you but, dude, you need to quit looking back. What you're looking for in the past isn't there anymore and as long as you're looking at the years gone by, you're not going to see the advantages in the years to come.
2006-09-29 11:46:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not saying it was right. If I would have been in her shoes, I might have done the same thing, and I know it would be wrong.
I feel for your emotions as well. That does not mean that she does not love you. Look at the situation she was in, and the situartion you was in. If I was in a coma and my wife cheated on me, I probably could not blame her. I would probably say can I watch what I missed, while I was out of this world for a short time.
Good Luck to both of you.
2006-09-29 15:03:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
operating round on a husband isn't disrespect, it really is a unfulfilled urge for nutrients, something that would nicely be worked with, if you're so susceptible. Disrespect is operating him, his ethic, his relatives, his aims into the floor. finished on push aside for the relationship does no longer require dishonest. She hasn't made an enemy of him, only an ex. it will happen to you too. Make acquaintances of her, and also you'll shop him.
2016-11-25 03:01:32 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i don't know if u should forgive her but u gotta put urself in her shoes.. think about how long u were in the coma for, and weather it was a life or death situation.. but if u can't then don't dwell on the past and move on because we both know that men cheat all the time for all types of reasons with no excuses.
2006-09-29 11:17:51 · answer #5 · answered by Queen D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it sounds rediculous to fogive her but all of those answers are correct. In order to go on w/your life you will need to forgive her. If not the anger and/or hate that you have for her will continue to build and consume your life. You will also carry into your next relationships.
2006-09-29 12:54:24 · answer #6 · answered by Katricia R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sod precious2's comments,a bloody feminist if ever there was one! Don't forgive the xwife,you are doing the right thing...it was a despicable thing she did to you.I hope you recover and get yourself a decent,loving and faith full woman in the future.
2006-09-29 11:26:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
totally understandable. she doesnt deserve your heart and your forgiveness, if she couldnt wait for u, why should u give her the time of day now? she is supposed to be there for you through think and thin, in sickness and in health, some marriage vows eh? i wish you the best of luck in the future.
2006-09-29 11:19:15 · answer #8 · answered by scion_xb_girly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After a betrayel like that it takes time to forgive.
You need to if for no other reason than to not let it eat you up inside. You still care for her because other wise it wouldn't bother you.
Take time and try to move on.
Feel for you.
2006-09-29 11:52:25 · answer #9 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you. You were in a coma, not brain dead. I think that she should have had more self control. Ditch the B*tch!
2006-09-29 11:17:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋