I recently had my period the 22nd-24th it was lighter than normal and i have had back aches, breast tenderness when they are touched, and have been feeling sick to my stomach for the last few days...could i be pregnant? I am scared to take a test beacause everyone has told i am crazy for wanting to have a kid with the man i love and have only been with for 6 months. Am I crazy?
2006-09-29 11:02:45 · 13 answers · asked by babiegurl 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
bf wants a baby as much as i do and we are not using protection because i'm allergic to latex and we wanna get pregnant
2006-09-29 11:19:30 · update #1
NO, your not crazy... you should take a test
2006-09-29 11:08:20 · answer #1 · answered by Sarah P 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Listen to me carefully.
If you love him and he loves you and he will stand by you and your baby if you have one - then nothing repeat nothing else is important. You will be a New Family - and nothing should stand in the way of that - not family, friends, work colleagues, religion, race anything - you and your man will have produced one of the next generation and if that child is born to two loving parents that love that child as well as each other - everything else and I mean everything else is irrelevant.
If your man will not stand by you then you have to choose what to do with YOUR baby - and it is YOUR choice that matters - that you ultimately will be responsible for. You can take advice from whoever - but you must not let someone else choose for you.
Above all - you must not let religion get in the way - if you are within a deeply religious family and in fear for your safety - go to the police, they can help and are trying to deal with this problem very keenly now - religion is the absolute curse of life on this earth! The only thing that matters while you are alive is to follow the rules that nature has set for you and the rest of life. If you observe nature closely and learn how animals and plants behave and co-exist with each other - you will then know how to lead your life and look after your baby if you decide to keep it. If it is growing inside your body then it is yours to decide not someone Else's and that is why it is your decision and why the law says that it is your decision if you are of sound mind and body which you sound like you are; but you will have to be strong and may have to stand up to people you have not had to stand up to before.
Most important of all - the child needs a mother and a father.
If your man is not able to deal with the situation, which many aren't because they're just not mature enough when the baby is born but then comes to terms with it later - even if it is years later - then you must let him enter the child's life if not your own, as long as you feel comfortable that he is doing it for the right reasons. This is not always clear and where councel from others may be helpful as long as those that give that councel have not got their own hidden agenda - this you can only decide from experience of life as you grow older and by cross-referencing with other people who may know those people.
I hope this has been some help. I am in my middle forties and have had a varied experience of life. Under no circumstances be manipulated, persuaded yes, manipulated no - best of luck - let me know how things turn out please !
2006-09-29 18:20:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
got buy a darn test... and if you aren't pregnant, DO NOT get pregnant till you are BOTH ready for a child. You've only been dating him for 6 months... alot can happen in the next 9 if you are pregnant, and I bet you'll be on your own.
Use your brain... a kid won't keep a man around if he doesn't want one. A kid will most likely scare a man off before anything...
Hopefully you aren't pregnant... cause if you are, you've got a ton of troubles ahead of you soon! It isn't easy being a mom... let alone a SINGLE mom!
2006-09-29 18:13:59 · answer #3 · answered by InnerBeauty28 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's very possible. Since you had a short and light period and have the other symptoms, I would test. I'm sure people are telling you that because having a baby is big responsibility and maybe they're worried that you'll end up a single mom. Make sure you know what you're getting yourself into. Good luck with whatever turns out!!
2006-09-29 18:07:19 · answer #4 · answered by farmersdaughter 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't be scared to take the test. you could be pregnant, and if both of ya'll want a baby then do it. don't listen to what everybody else has said, you worry about your happiness. if you are pregnant be happy. my mother said that when she found out she was pregnant that she was scared at first to take the test and when she found out she was pregnant she was more scared., but now she says she couldn't be happier and that god has blessed her life, thats how you will feel. and if you are pregnant congratulations!!!!!!!!!!!
good luck , you'll look back at this day in like ten years and wonder how you could have ever been scared.
2006-09-29 18:31:51 · answer #5 · answered by buffychik1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you crazy? That is a question best left to your mental health professional of choice. Are you pregnant? You could be but then there is only one way to find out... and developing a sudden case of "Ostrich syndrome" (sticking your head in the sand and hoping that when you pull your head out the problem is gone) will not help. Mental health issues aside... do yourself and the potential human inside you a favor... get the damn test!!
2006-09-29 18:07:09 · answer #6 · answered by Greywolf 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you want to have a baby, what do you care what everyone else thinks? If you want to know for sure, take the test. Otherwise, wait and see what happens in the next few months.
2006-09-29 18:05:55 · answer #7 · answered by squeekmnstr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be pregnant, but it doesn't sound likely. Be sure you are in a stable relationship before getting knocked up by someone - when the news of a pregnancy rolls around - the to-be-daddy may change from the amazing human being you are in love with into a selfish pig - I've seen it happen too many times.
2006-09-29 18:10:41 · answer #8 · answered by Starlight 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Crazy? Probably not. Stupid? You be the judge. Ever hear of condoms? Diagphragms? IUD's? BC pills?
Just do the freakin' test; you're either pregnant or you're not. Deal with it. And if you're not pregnant now, please don't breed in the future.
Now, if you're not pregnant and you're having unusual post-menstrual symptoms, you really should give your gynecologist a call and see what advice they have for you. Good luck.
2006-09-29 18:16:38 · answer #9 · answered by OU812 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
take the test you have to get it over with...6 months isn't a long time but if you are financially and emotionally ready don't worry what oyhers think, but be careful he can still run
2006-09-29 18:05:25 · answer #10 · answered by ramos_luanne 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
its your life and you are the only one who can make decisions. You are probably pregnant. But just to be sure go see a doctor. Congrads.
2006-09-29 18:08:01 · answer #11 · answered by phoenixchickNY 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋