I have been married to my husband for 4 years and he tells me he hates me, that i am a whore cause i have a daughter, I am a ***** never tells me he loves me , tells me i always go out, gets mad when i go out with my family or when i go to see my daughter. When he goes out i never say anything i cook , clean , I wash his clothes i do everything for him .What am i facing here? Is he cheating on me?
2006-09-29 11:01:42 · 32 answers · asked by xoxo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm wondering why you married him. Was he this bad all along? Did you think he would change? If you're being mistreated, you need to get out. The way you describe it, it seems to be heading from verbal abuse to physical abuse.
2006-09-29 11:04:23 · answer #1 · answered by Arnold M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wish I had you. My wife doesnt cook, or clean. or go get grocieries. I do all that, plus im always at her parents house. Which is like 30 miles away. And she has gained weight. We all dont pick good ones. Or maybe we did and we let them go rotten. I'd say if you aint married. Its time for you to leave. I never speak to my wife like the way you just explained. I may say I want a divorce, but never in a ugly manner. I get fed up you know. Leave him, no man should treat a girl like that. he is insecure, thats the main problem. He probably thinks your to good for him, and one day your gonna realize it and leave. So he treats you like that, so he doesnt look like the fool. Come that day yuou leave. I know its hard to leave someone. And you want to leave or you wouldnt be asking this question. You know what to do!!! Dont worry, you were making it 4 years ago, you will make it now. Especially that your stronger now, because dealing with that, makes you stronger. Think about what you would want your daughter to do, when she grows and gets into a situation like this, with her daughter.
Take care. God Bless.
2006-09-29 11:14:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dunno about him cheating on you, but as for the rest it shows that you have a case of a possessive husband. He wishes to dominate you in every way, thinking it is the 12th century when a man could sit on is lazy butt and act like a king while his woman does all the cooking and cleaning. My suggestion is the next time he tells you he hates you, calls you a name, etc, maybe you should tell him you will put him out of the "misery" of being with you, pack your things and leave. When he is missing you, and tries to act all sweet to get you back, give him the finger and go find yourself a real man. Hell, I think he ought to apreciate what you do for him, and I'm sure some other guy out there will. Cut your losses and get out.
2006-09-29 11:08:42 · answer #3 · answered by Chris L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, YOU ren't doing anything wrong. If fact, it seems like you're doing everything and he's doing nothing. HE is abusive, selfish and if he hasn't already, WILL cheat on you. I was verbally abused also and I got out. It was the hardest thing I've ever had to do, but I'm doing great now and dating a great guy. You have to think of your daughter and dump that looser. You CAN do it and MUST do it. See a lawyer immediately! Good luck. It can be so good - I realize that now.
2006-09-29 11:09:46 · answer #4 · answered by Sunshine 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl~ YOU NEED TO RUN! He sounds like a psycho...He doesn't seem to care about you or appreciate you, and even if he doesn't hit you he is still abusing you mentally...You don't deserve that and nobody does...Don't even tell him you are leaving just write a big F You on the mirror with lipstick...Because if you try to file for divorce either things will get worst and he will go really crazy or he will say how much he loves you and blah blah blah bull sh*t and then trap you into staying and go back to his old ways! ~Good Luck!
2006-09-29 12:51:11 · answer #5 · answered by Rhonda M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you for recognizing that there is a problem, and not denying it! I'm guessing that he wasn't like that when you were first married, because you probably never would have married him. He might be cheating, but that's so hard to say/prove. I know this is easier to say than to do, but get out girl! Marriage needs to be a positive reciprocal relationship for BOTH people. He's got it too good that you do everything for him.
2006-09-29 11:06:23 · answer #6 · answered by acwehse 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried to sit him down and talk to him.
If so and he want tell you what his problem is, and i do mean his problem, get out. Or if you not ready to leave, quit doing the little things for him. dont cook, dont do HIS laundry. Or better yet ask him if hes cheating and wants out. if so he pays for the divorce, pays alimony, and anything else you can come up with.
if hes abusive get out now not later. no woman needs to go through that.
sounds like he already verbaly abusive.
only curious, because you never said, do you still love him????
2006-09-29 11:15:51 · answer #7 · answered by kathy i 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your facing a Man who is finding pleasure in dictating you. If he treats you this way and never tells you he loves you then its only obvious that he don't. Its a form of abuse and you should contemplate getting out and getting on to better things. Listen, your not doing anything wrong, it is this so called man who is doing everything wrong. In a situation like this it could go both ways he could possibly have the potential to have an affair. In most cases of infidelity, the man is unusually nice (overly) nice to his wife because of inner guilt of what he is doing. However, there are men who treat their women like dogs to justify their actions. Go and get help, get on and continue being a beautiful person and someone somewhere will treat you like a queen...
God bless..
2006-09-29 11:15:06 · answer #8 · answered by skawp 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Who cares if he is cheating on you? He is a loser and you need to dump his behind! You deserve to be treated better than this. There is no future for you with him. He will just verbally abuse you until he gets enough courage to physically abuse you. Get out now and never look back.
2006-09-29 11:04:43 · answer #9 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, the only thing you're doing wrong is staying right where you are.
It's so interesting that women automatically say, "What am I doing wrong?" And men say, "What's wrong with her?"
I wouldn't worry about him cheating on you... I'd feel sorry for the next woman who "gets" him.
You deserve to be loved and cherished.
Get outta there.
You can do it.
2006-09-29 11:05:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋