Is this common after having kids? Why do you think it happens?
2006-09-29 10:50:29 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Sociology
we have kids, and we are very active - not everyday of course, but weekly at least. I feel bad for those who have marriages lacking in that area. However I do believe that if a woman knows her body and the man is willing to be shown (or the woman is willing to learn about her body at least and then show him) there is no way they'd be sexless. Unless of course they are on the verge of divorce because of other marital issues.
2006-09-29 11:00:59 · answer #1 · answered by GirlUdontKnow 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Any couple who recently had children will likely have a lull in their sex life. Does that mean they are "trapped"? How about looking at the underlying reasons for the sexless marriage? Lack of sexual intimacy is simply a symptom of deeper issues in the marriage. Instead of focusing on the sex (or lack thereof) the couple should focus on the problems in their relationship that led to one or both partners disinterest.
2006-09-29 15:07:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have never been in a sexless marriage, but then again i have never had children. Perhaps that does make a difference or maybe it has something to do with growing apart after being married for so long!
2006-09-29 10:56:00 · answer #3 · answered by KCH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not have kids and am not trapped in a sexless marriage.
2006-09-29 10:59:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Out a 19 year marriage, the last 2 prior 2 divorce changed...
2006-09-29 10:53:17 · answer #5 · answered by ***BEEN THERE, DONE THAT!!!*** 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Am. And I know exactly why.
The second pregnancy was brutal for her to the point where she nearly died.
Not wishing to go through that again, she made herself physically, emotionally and spiritually ugly, so I would not find her desirable. She would go out of her way to insult and denigrate my sexual desires for her, even wondering if there was something "wrong" with me for even thinking about sex in general.
Eventually, it worked, so I only have another body in the house.
Most of the problems are truly self-imposed. If you want to, you can find the time and the place. But you have to want to and that only comes from within.
2006-09-29 11:08:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I haven't had sex in a month. Our 21 mo old sleeps in the middle of us. We have different schedules. And we are tired all the time. Maybe when he's older it will pick back up again? We went on a trip together and it was like twice a day, but our son stayed with Grandma.
I think after you have kids, other things become priority than your sex life. You also begin to start enjoying life as a family, which in my opinion doesn't make me miss it as much.
2006-09-29 11:01:02 · answer #7 · answered by manicschematic 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Let me be honest. I was in a marriage with limited sexual activity... then we had a child and even with being SOO busy the sex has increased and we are a lot more intimate than we've ever been.
Then again, we Love each other.
2006-09-29 10:55:51 · answer #8 · answered by Big C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Was. Voiced my opinion and got some porn DVD's and that all changed. Lack of the chase kills the sexual drive,kid's tire you out or won't leave you alone, I believe you become immune to your partners phermones after awhile.
2006-09-29 11:00:08 · answer #9 · answered by Babydoll 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
:::raises hand::: yeah pretty darn close. I know so many people that are in the same boat too. I don't know what causes it, but if I had known I definitely would have stayed single. I love my kids, so there is no turning back now.
2006-09-29 10:52:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋