I never slept with him first of all and now that I do know the truth I'm really not interested. So for all of you who have something bad to say dont even waist you breath. dose it make me a bad person for not knowing he was married and when I found out I cut him off? Of course he was going to call me eventually, and it up to me to do what's right. I'm looking for a answer not your judgements. it's a lot of women that's datting married men and proud of it, at least I had enough since to leave his a**. O and self esteem is the last thing i'm lacking believe me.
2006-09-29 10:47:55 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's horrible that he didn't tell you up front that he was married and that shows exactly what kind of man he is. Good for you for stepping up and realizing it's wrong. It sucks that there are men out there that lead unsuspecting women on and you are not to blame and you should feel proud that yourespect yourself enough to move on.
2006-09-29 10:56:54 · answer #1 · answered by hideemosquito 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you did was admirable and yes it was the right thing because like you said, not many women out there upon finding out the guy they were interested in was married would cut all ties with him so I applaud you. You had no way of knowing he was married since he obviously neglected to make you aware of this fact. I would imagine that you're not the only one he flirts with cause he seems quite sly. I know you may reason that this is none of your business but if I were in your predicament and found out the type of person he was, I would tell his wife because I think she deserves to know what kind of person he really is cause he has no respect for her nor you for that matter because he's willing to break his marriage vows just to satisfy his sexual desires and that's wrong. So think about it and should u decide to tell her, do it in a very discreet way because there's every possibility she may not believe you. I urge you to never change ur personality because you are very unique, you have morals and values which you've indicated by your actions that you take very seriously. With an attitude like yours, it won't be long til you find the right guy - someone who's honest and treats you with the utmost respect. So keep it up and congrats for making such a wise decision.
2006-09-29 18:26:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you need other people's opinion on this? You know what there answer is going to be. If you didn't know he was married than how would that make you bad? You might have self esteem but you might want to check up on your self doubt. You might be second guessing yourself. Would there be a reason for that? Did you know something more than you are wanting to admit? I'm not judging you at all b/c I'm not in your shoes and I've probably done worse than you. I'm just saying maybe that's a couple things to think about.
Good Luck and stay strong!
2006-09-29 17:55:31 · answer #3 · answered by Julie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing. You found out he was married and wanted nothing more to do with him. It's too bad that some women really don't care if they bust up a family or not. You are not a bad person, he would just be using you for sex, and you sound to smart to fall for that.
2006-10-01 03:29:21 · answer #4 · answered by Katrina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on everyone. go ahead and slander me after you read what I have to say. Sex is sex, and sex has nothing to do with love.
Having sex with a married person is not wrong. You can still love your spouse and have sex with others.
Now please do not get on your soap box and tell me I have a low self esteem. That is the farthest thing from me. I am happy with myself and I love myself and my life...
I find it a thrill to be with a married man. It turns me on. Knowing I am with someone who is taken. Knowing I am the other women.
And this does not mean I am lacking self esteem. I find it very sexy to be with married men. What turns me off is when they say they are single and then I find out they are married.
Maybe I like the thrill, of knowing I am in bed with someone elses man. Maybe I like the fact that they turned to me.
Just because he is married does not mean you have to cut it off. You can still be friends with benefits. Sex does not have to be about love, it can be something two friends share.
My most romantic and intimate times were with married men. Maybe I like the fact of how the man sneaks behind his wives back to see. I like the thrill of knowing he is in my bed and his wife has no clue...
No, none of this makes me a bad person. I have a right to enjoy life, and I am not hurting anyone. So for those of you wish to call me a home wrecker remember it takes two.
If you want to date a married man , I would go for it. You may find it to be very sexy and romantic. Just the fact of knowing you have to sneak around and the knowing he is with you when he should be with his wife.....
My first date with a married man was fabulous. I packed a picnic lunch. We met at a park and we had lunch on a blanket...We had such a good time. He kissed me good bye. and he treated me very well. We continued to see one and other and call each other. The sex was great. He was much older then me, but he was so sexy and handsome...
My point here is... go for it. do not hold back because he is married. if it makes you happy go for it girl. You do not need to cut it off. So what if he is married....
I am not hear to judge, but to persway you into going for it. and see what happens....
2006-09-29 18:09:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Miss I don't know you... If he cheats on her what makes you any different.. but a man will be a dog if you allow him to.... He might make up alot of stories about how unhappy he is and they dont get along blah blah... But the the bottom line is honey, He is coming with DRAMA.... And who needs it ...relationships are hard enough without extra drama... You made the right choice...
2006-09-29 19:13:14 · answer #6 · answered by Jean Grey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, you sound like an all together woman. You don't seem to have any problem. You walked away when you found out the jerk was married. So move on to a real man. Who can be truthful to you and himself. Be proud girl!!
2006-09-29 17:51:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's not your fault he was married it would have been half your fault if u continued doing what u were doing after the fact of finding out but if someone thinks your wrong for not knowing they're wrong for not knowing when the worlds going to end girl keep your head up if it was my husband it would be his fault not yours and that's my word
2006-09-29 17:52:55 · answer #8 · answered by Ray_Ray 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well done for leaving him alone. thats where many people gp wrong, messing with someone elses bloke is not right!!
he has sworn to honour love protect and remain faithful, if he is willing to throw his marriage away, how can he be trusted?? done it once he can and most probably will do it again. i dont understand how people can trust their once married partners, theyve left the person they devoted their life to, whose to say they wont leave you??
again, well done for backing off once you found out he was married, a BIG thumbs up to you!
2006-09-29 17:53:58 · answer #9 · answered by Happyworms 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing. He was wrong for not telling you he was married and for acting so poorly. If anyone gives you a hard time, shurg it off girl.
2006-09-29 17:52:59 · answer #10 · answered by 4eyed zombie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋