As an LSA I work with many different ability children. But 2 in particular (aged 8) are liars, thieves, bullies, lazy and seem to enjoy trouble. No matter how much time and attention you give them, they hit, punch, kick, lie, steal and disrupt all the time. Are they just going to turn out bad no matter what you do?
2006-09-29 10:44:01 · 16 answers · asked by helen p 4 in Education & Reference ➔ Primary & Secondary Education
No, but I think it's almost always upbringing and parents that lead to problems and it's very difficult for a teacher to change bad behaviour in only six hours per day if that child has been neglected (or even spoilt) for eight years. All you can do is continue to offer a lifeline and hope that, maybe not here and now but one day, they will remember not everyone has given up on them and there is a chance to turn things around.
2006-09-29 11:54:14 · answer #1 · answered by starchilde5 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me, your question is unclear. Do you mean, like in life, or in the time of which you spend with them? Even though it doesn't really matter with the answer.
Most likely, yes, they will turn out bad and unsuccessful. Sometimes this can be corrected though. The parents could get either invloved or at least seem interested in the kids welfare a little more. A teacher that they end up finding a connection to, can "show them the error of their ways". And as a last option the child could in the long term, fall in "love" with, or decide they like a certain individual that isn't like that, therefore improving their behavior, so they aren't as bad off.
I was once one of those kids, and I ran into several teachers who helped me out of my mess. My parents still do not understand how to handle my being a blood related through being born to them, so they were not an option. I was slick enough that my teachers had no idea, but still knew something was wrong and they helped me through it. I don't know exactly what they did, but since about 9 years old, I've been much better.
2006-09-29 10:54:32 · answer #2 · answered by THE ODD 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough call. Some kids have mental health issues that may have been fostered by experiences in their lives. Some kids develope that spark regardless of how mellow their environment is.
Keep in mind that at 8 years old they are moving into the 'pre-teen' stage. Some kids have hormones waking up as early as 8 and 9. My 9 year old boy is getting acne and his voice is starting to crack. I have also noticed an increase in agression. (Yes I had him checked at the doctors and he said it's not abnormal)
The point is, you won't know for certain if these are 'bad' or not until they really start making some of their own decisions in life. Some cultures view 8 as the age of reason. Give them some time and encouragement. They will remember it later.
2006-09-29 11:04:11 · answer #3 · answered by Pixie Dust 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i strongly think that you cant always blame "the parents" or the up bringing, some children are naturally disruptive and seem to enjoy causing uproar but i also think that for most children any attention is better than no attention so by putting lots of attention on a naughty child can also make them disruptive. (as its fun for them to watch how you will react) only time will tell how bad they turn out to be, not all naughty children become bad grown ups .. because even the best of kids can turn out to be bad.
2006-09-29 10:59:19 · answer #4 · answered by melly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so.
I think it's a matter of them being aware of who walks away from them and gives up and who sticks around to save them.
When kids are in that "state of mind" where they don't care - they don't expect anyone else to care either... but in the bottom of their hearts - they hope someone will.
I was the same way when I was little.
I say... they are worth the chance. And even if that chance involves a ton of stress and a lot of long hours... even exhaustion... when they find their way in the world... and start living right - you'll be damn proud you stuck with them.
Thank you for what you do! Best of luck.
2006-09-29 10:57:32 · answer #5 · answered by apinkfreak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A very hard question to answer. However, I have come to the conclusion that sometimes some children no matter if they have good parents, school etc they do turn out to be bad no matter what.
2006-09-29 10:56:17 · answer #6 · answered by frizz 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been reading an interesting book called Freakenomics and the author was pointing out that although parents try their hardest, they actually don't make a huge impact on their kids lives.... because most of it is based on their peers (ie. their friends and who they're involved with).
I also think a lot of it's genetic and not via nurturing.
2006-09-29 11:02:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you just have to look to the parents, unfortunately some kids don't stand a chance. That's properly how they are treated at home. Kids learn by what they see and hear.
2006-10-02 04:38:25 · answer #8 · answered by greenangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you just need to step back from your job for a minute and remember the ones you made a difference in their lives.
2006-09-29 10:45:38 · answer #9 · answered by violetb 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
their parents either payed attention too much or too little. They are spoiled or need more love, their parents did not make their lives easier, there will always be hope but because of their parents they made it worse.
2006-09-29 13:09:12 · answer #10 · answered by jessica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋