this girl is great! shes beautiful and shes sweet, shes even on the same wave length as me. and i dont know if i should trust her even after all the girls that seemed to be great but all acted and used me and hurt me... they never cared about me and i dont know if i should trust this one...
2006-09-29 10:36:02 · 9 answers · asked by Matt 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Look, you have a choice here. You either trust this girl and treat this as the unique relationship it is and give it a real chance, or you never trust another relationship again in your life and never find true love. It's your choice but personally I would rather risk having my heart broken again than protecting it and never really loving anyone ever again.
2006-09-29 10:42:31 · answer #1 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well think of it this way, love always is pain, pain is love right?
If you survived all the other hopless attempts and failure then why not once more? who knows maybe this time it coule be something truly good. Dont let it pass you like that, it will be your lose, of course dont trust too soon with any person, i believe trust has to be earned, you will see that by her behaviour and if you are a prority in her life. At least give it a try to see what could come out of it, even if you do end up getting hurt , you have been there and done that b4 so you know how to handle it..Never Give Up.
2006-09-29 14:33:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would hope you know that the problem you had with other girls has everything to do with the way you are. My guess is you are a nice guy. You bend over backward for these girls and they don't appreciate it.
Girls do not like what they perceive to be a weak man. When you do not stand up for yourself they find no challenge and so look elsewhere. They may like you at first because they have been taught that nice guys will make good husbands but they will soon tire of you.
Why? It is all about attraction.
What is sexually attractive to girls.
1): Confidence: You are the best thing that ever happened to them so make sure they know it.
2): Funny: Tease them like they are your brat of a sister.
3): Personality: If you keep them guessing, never know what you will do next they see it as a challenge and to them it is attractive.
4): Never Ever.....put a high priority on any one girl. If she is smart she will go with you...if not there will be someone else that will and will deserve it.
So don't look to her for the answer. Look to yourself and you will never have to worry about being hurt again.
2006-09-29 10:54:55 · answer #3 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt let down my guard just yet but i would explain to her that in the past you have been hurt and so you are taking percautions but also let her know that she is beautiful and sweet and that you really feel something with her and want to explore where that will lead, and then just ask her about how she feels about that and you never know she might have been cheated on in the past and feel the same, be honest but protective.
Hope that helps!!
2006-09-29 10:41:22 · answer #4 · answered by Sheena B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could play it safe but don't use your past experience on this girl.. Not all people are like that otherwise you are going to be single the rest of your life.. Be happy and take one step at a time,... Be happy that you find a girl that you like and don't ruin it because of the past girls....
2006-09-29 10:47:19 · answer #5 · answered by funkysha916 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not everyone in the world is a cheater my friend...always keep your options open..there is a lot much out there in this world...just get on the road and see how it works for you.....as time passes by, u will know how she is and how u are when u r with her....believe in urself and dont get fooled just cos someone is out there to fool you.....BUT, think before you act....friendship is good....take some time before u make the next move though..Good luck and cheers!!
2006-09-29 10:43:35 · answer #6 · answered by carrie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust her untill you have a concrete reason not to.
Just because other girls cheat, dosen't mean all girls cheat. You have to look at each person you meet diferently and learn who they really are, not just who you assume them to be.
2006-09-29 10:42:13 · answer #7 · answered by DeskJockey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey matt
i do understand how does it feel beign cheated in love . however
it is not necessary all the girls are same . first maintain your relationship at the friendship level. do not jump into conclusion.
when you really feel that she is ideal for share your feelings with her. first try to understand her nature do not take her for granted. atleast give your relationship a month or two.
2006-09-29 10:49:25 · answer #8 · answered by sanskruti 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please trust just be careful..save some heart for self and give some away...good luck
2006-09-29 10:42:39 · answer #9 · answered by dreamy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋