In your opinion, who do you think has it harder when it comes to finding a new boyfriend/girlfriend... a single mother or a single father?
In most scenerios, the mother has the children... so I've always thought it would be harder on the mother to find a man who would accept her and her children.
I realize there is no right answer, that every case is different, but I'd just like to hear everyone's thoughts on the matter or personal experience.
2006-09-29 10:30:15 · 7 answers · asked by PrettyProblem 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'd say it's whoever has the kids. It's very hard to be available for dating and be a parent.
2006-09-29 10:36:00 · answer #1 · answered by tpurtygrl 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Being a single Mother, I have to say Mothers. I worked 2 jobs from 8 a.m. until 2-3 a.m. No child support. Father has not seen kids in years, moved to Florida and we didn't even know until this year, owes as of 1-15-06 just over 30,000.00 in arrears, has had 3 more children with 3 different women, and has had many relationships. Do I envy that? Not one bit! My kids are great, daughter sweet 16, honor student, going to Germany for 3 weeks with the school. Son 12, bright, funny, loves to ride his dirtbike. And Me...I have a great boyfriend for 4 years now, we have a house, 2 dogs, he is a better Father to my kids than their Bio Dad! I got hurt at work, and he supports all of us without question. So, really in the long run my ex can have all the girlfriends he can handle, but he has no family, no kids, and nobody that gives a **** about him...why? His choice! Life is good. Besides, I already got the best of him...my kids. Everyone else can have the leftovers.
2006-09-29 10:42:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will be harder for the mother.
Why?
Because most men will not even THINK of dating a single mother. Once the find out she has kids the will run!! The reason they will run is because they know what she will most likely do if she becomes pregnant by accident (then they are stuck paying for it). Since most guys also want to "try" a girl on a few times before getting serious her 'dating' pool will be VERY limited.
Single Fathers on the other hand are usually looked at in pitty by most women - having to raise the kids because mom MUST be some sort of wacko. some single fathers even use the single dad thing to get laid!!!
So... yeah.. I don't think the dating pool is impacted as much by a single father than a single mother.
As for raising the kids.. being a single whatever is tough!!!! and I hope I'm never put in that situation!!!
2006-09-29 10:46:49 · answer #3 · answered by .... 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The mother ... it's called extra baggage for us and for the single dads they're looked at as great guys for taking on the role of both mother and father ... double standard I think ... !
Like you said no right answer ... in both cases being a single parent personally is the hardest job I have ever had to do ... and I'm soooo happy I finally found somebody that is willing to be there for me and my daughter ... !
2006-09-29 10:36:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is hard for both. I was a single mum and I honestly thought I would never meet anyone again. My husband was a single father and he felt the same. But at the end of the day fate brought us together. I believe if there is someone out there for you, you will meet them. The only thing to remember do think of the children but also think of yourself they will grow up and have a life. When my husband proposed to me, I said YES but I also told him I would have to check with my 3 year old if he would be happy. Thankfully he was but at the same time I need his opinion after all they have to live together to. But you never know what fate has in store for us all!
2006-09-29 10:40:54 · answer #5 · answered by Rabbit 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its harder for single men, because women are so used to wanting a man that can spend this and that on her and when she finds out that he cant do that because he has other priorities, then a lot of times immature women bail, because they want everything,
but then again if your talking about finding someone serious about a relationship it would have to be women have it harder because a lot of men think that ur easy because you have children, so its hard to find a serious man,
this is a hard one
2006-09-29 10:38:28 · answer #6 · answered by mssjj87 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its hard for both motheres and fathers. Theres no easy way around it. Me being a single mom is hard,,but my man cameinto my life and accepted me and my son with open arms. It all depends on if you find the right person for you. Every situtaion is different.
2006-09-29 10:35:07 · answer #7 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋