I am 7 months pregnant with our 3rd child- I went to my husbands work to surprize him for lunch. He was standing in the hallway watching people walk by and didn't see me coming toward him- a pretty younger woman walked by and he stared at her with interest and yes- even lust--he watched her all the way down the hallway until she was out of sight! I was so angry I left but never told him what I saw-- is this normal for men with pregnant wives????
2006-09-29 10:30:08 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
come on now. 3 kids and you think this is new? don't take it personal-after all he did knock you up 3 times right? or did you trap him each time?
its normal-he's a guy and he lets face it he's not getting any loving right now because your 7 months along.
give him a break
2006-09-29 10:34:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well I have been married for 19 years and been completely faithful to my wife and have every intention of doing it till the day I die.
That being said, I've stood in the hallway and done the exact same thing. Your husband is a perfectly normal man.
I think this is a difficult area for men and women. I notice attractive women all the time. It's amazing how many there are, but I could never ever hurt my wife like that.
So I would say to you that a husband's eyes are not quite the same as his hands. Trust that you have your husband's heart and fidelity and don't worry.
2006-09-29 18:10:45 · answer #2 · answered by KERMIT M 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would not say that it is normal but yet ask my self what is it that I am not doing to make my husband even want to look at another woman? Don't get me wrong I am in no way taking his side and saying that it was right for his to lust over another woman but most men only do it because something is not right at home, Maybe he needs more attention or even less attention or that since you have been pregnant the sex has fallen off . Just think back to see if any of these things have changed and if not I would just tell him to sleep with one eye open tonight ; )
2006-09-29 17:42:12 · answer #3 · answered by jai h 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No that isn't normal for guys to do when his wife is pregnant, in fact looking at other women shouldn't be a option. This is the time that you need him the most , and the time that he needs to be an example for your kids. Men who don't have God as the head of their life do those types of things. It is never okay for a man to look at any woman with lust never and that shouldn't be okay with you. The day that happened you should have spoke to him about that now you're going to have drama because you waited so long to try and talk about the problem.
2006-09-29 17:41:35 · answer #4 · answered by Beauty 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I dont think that is very appropriate for a married man to be doing. Obviously body language is a very strong indicater and a way we all communicate. If I was you, I would be very upset. I think your feelings are normal ~ just dont let that consume you. Your baby will be here soon. Focus on yourself and your baby and your family. Most wise family men these days would not want to risk losing that precious love they have with their family at home. Be sure and let him know where you stand on issues like this. It is normal that you have these concerns, don't be afraid to open up about your expectations and set some guidelines. I doubt your husband would appreciate it if he saw you staring down a hot guy with interest!
2006-09-29 17:40:53 · answer #5 · answered by urbanbutterfly 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's normal the females that are not pregnant are a different attractive but you're everything to them they look at u and see the miracle us woman can do with and for them and that's a sexiness all it's own in a whole nother level so keep your head up he's not trying to do u dirty it's just an instinct thing but you've got his heart so what he looks a bit now and then it's the actions that are a totally different thing.
2006-09-29 17:34:58 · answer #6 · answered by Ray_Ray 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Awww sorry you had to go through that but as many replies have stated many men are usually visual and I am pregnant also with twins and my husband still treats me the same but I am sure he looks when im not around which is ok because I trust him as he and I are totally committed to eachother so maybe he meant no harm by it but you must remember he is YOUR husband which means if he wanted to go elsewhere he would so maybe you are taking that way to personal I understand though as us pregnant women can be a bit emotional so as I said dont take it so personal.
2006-09-29 17:52:43 · answer #7 · answered by CaliMa 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Confront him. The worst thing you can do is deny this happened (and in the future deny if other stuff happens). Tell him that you don't appreciate him flirting with other women and if he is having a problem that you need to talk about it together.
I'm sort of not surprised this is happening when you're pregnant, it's definitely a time of stress sexually for partners. He may be frustrated and you probably need to talk about it. Hopefully this means it may not be something he does all the time - just a result of some frustration from the pregnancy. If it's not new....you may want to suggest something more like some marriage counseling.
2006-09-29 17:40:25 · answer #8 · answered by ~Lacey~ 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well I'm 27.5 weeks pregnant about 7 months myself with my 3ed my other kids are 8.5 and 10.5. PREGNANT non PREGNANT my man LOOKS he is a faithful loving husband wonderful DAD he has eyes he likes to see nice looking women just because I'm pregnant dose not mean he's BLIND. I have never had a issue with him looking I LOOK TO TO I'm bi i like looking @ a nice butt also WE are committed only to each other. I know when your pregnant your emotional your letting those emotions crowd out REASON and rational thinking. If he Talked to THIS WOMEN got a # or tried to touch her helllll yes you should be angry in fact VERY ANGRY he LOOKED and watched did not EVEN KNOW YOU SAW and still BEHAVED and was respectful did not approach her at all. I think you should feel more confident he's not going anywhere! my man looks when were driving at the store he likes to look he's not going to ACT on it.
2006-09-29 17:39:08 · answer #9 · answered by ally'smom 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
<<< a man ... yes, its normal for men to ogle pretty women, its called testosterone. personally, i think all women are beautiful, even pregnant women. What is important is how he reacts when he is WITH you. i know that when my wife was pregnant, i would watch her with the same lust and interest as she walked down the hall ... now, if he was following her, that would be different. Keep things in perspective.
2006-09-29 17:50:55 · answer #10 · answered by casurfwatcher 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
The more semen a man has the greater his sexual drive. You're pregnant so he doesn't have sex with you for sometime. So he looked at her. There is nothing wrong.
Any man will look. If he doesn't he is gay.
You can ask a man to not eat chocolate but you can't ask him to not like chocolate.
Nothing to worry. Its because you are pregnant. Just that he hasn't had sex lately and so his sex drive is more
2006-09-29 18:16:52 · answer #11 · answered by Mr Business 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋