I planned to get myself pregnant, with ny fience. Will on reason why I wanted to get pregnant was 'cause of my father. But now I am confused 'bout it. Don't get me wrong I love my fiance, and I want to have his baby, but on the other hand I woeey what I am doing to hurt my dad. I love them both, even though they aren't the only mens in my life. I am the only girl with 8 brothers. I did this to get back at his dad. He told me I was a mistake, then later on he tells me that I am not his. Now I Ithink that I am truely doing the right thing. Should I keep baby or not?
Plus, on the other hand. MY fiance and I both had the same childhood. his dad has been saying the samething to him like my dad says 2 me. He and I planned all of this.
2006-09-29 10:16:39 · 15 answers · asked by carzy chick 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Well I think your reason for getting pregnant was wrong but I still think you should have the baby. The baby isn't the cause of this distant relationship you have with your father. It's your father's fault you haven't said what your father did to make you decide this but whatever it was he is to blame, not your child. SO PLEASE LET THAT BABY LIVE!!!!!!!!
2006-09-29 10:20:30 · answer #1 · answered by Justice 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about all of your feelings of revenge towards your dad and whatever is going on with you fiance. And think about whether you really want to have a baby, it's about the baby you are pregnant with now. If you want children and your fiance wants to be a dad, then keep the poor baby. If not, put the baby up for adoption and let it have the life it deserves.
2006-09-29 17:25:10 · answer #2 · answered by mommyem 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Getting pregnant for revenge is really stupid. And you sound very very young. Don't have an abortion, just plan to give the child up for adoption to someone who can take care of it and wants a baby in their life. You can always have a baby later when you're older and for the right reasons.
2006-09-29 17:22:09 · answer #3 · answered by kitten lover3 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, you completely confused the hell out of me. But here is what I think about what I do understand. If you are pregnant by the man you love and you want to marry.....why not keep the baby? It is the best thing two people in love can do is create a life. Good Luck
2006-09-29 17:21:19 · answer #4 · answered by angie_laffin927 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I will never understand why people like you can have a baby that is not really wanted at the drop of a hat while my husband & I have been trying for 4 yrs to have a baby. A baby is a very big responsibility & they need you constant love & devotion something I'm sure you are to selfish to give! You should have your baby & then give him/her up for adoption that way that precious little bundle of joy will have a shot at a normal, happy & loving life! i pray you make the right decision!
2006-09-29 17:38:45 · answer #5 · answered by Pildi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Those are definitely the wrong reasons to have a baby. If you are having second thoughts, do what you need to do. Taking care of a baby is a LOT OF HARD WORK, and without a loving and supportive family, you are doomed to do most of it yourself, and that will leave your baby in a dysfunctional family. Think it over.
2006-09-29 17:19:04 · answer #6 · answered by Katyana 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should both take responsibility for your actions. You are dealing with a life here, you can't decide one day to get pregnant then when you do throw it away. I am not against abortions for the right reasons. But you both made the decision now you need to live with your choice. For the sake of repeating myself. BE RESPONSIBLE!
2006-09-29 17:25:12 · answer #7 · answered by D J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you are in need of some counselling. To use a pregnancy to "get back" at someone? Have you thought of the long term plans? This baby isn't going away, I think what you did was silly, and you should consider all options, including adoption........18 years is a long time!
2006-09-29 17:19:36 · answer #8 · answered by Gur8 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're already pregnant, keep the baby.
If you're not pregnant, you're not ready honey. For one, you're not making much sense. And you ARE doing it for the wrong reasons.
2006-09-30 23:40:33 · answer #9 · answered by elizabeth_ashley44 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you got pregnant to get back at your dad. What kind of mother will you be. That is just wrong.
2006-09-29 17:49:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋