How do I get over a friendship?

Question

Okay I've got this friend and we used to be best friends. I used to think we weren't just best friends but we were like sisters.Well this was in high school which was about 9 years ago and she started dating my brother which at first didn't bother me.I actually thought it was kind of cool,cause I thought who knows maybe they would get married and then we would really be sisters.But she started dissing me for my brother every time I turned around.Her relationship with him was more important then our friendship.Well through the 9 years we have gone back in forth from best friends to pretty much enemies and then back to best friends and so on and so on. All we do is fight when we are friends anyway.She is still with my brother and they have 2 kids together.I am just so fed up with her treating me like crap.She said she wants to start over but I can't. I just don't trust her or our friendship anymore. I know she will just turn her back on me again. What should I do.

I did leave her a mean message a few days ago telling her I was fed up and not to call me anymore but now I am thinking about taking it back if she lets me. I keep trying to fight the urge to call her cause in my heart I know this is for the best. It shouldn't be this hard to be friends with somebody but for some reason I can't let go of the past or our friendship. I miss it. Please give me some advice on what you think I should do.

I have tried to just get along with her cause my brother and nephews but then she starts calling me all the time and it just gets mye sucked back in again. I have tried to keep my distance before but we just keep going around in circles.

Answer 1

Because she is family now.. you need to let things heal.. but dont give her your whole heart and keep busy with other friends. .but talk to her. We all make mistakes.. but some of us.. dont like being stuck on stupid.. so, let her in but not too much.. good luck

Answer 2

Maybe it's just time for a break from it all. Only you can decide what you will and wont have in your life and how you will conduct yourself. It takes two to argue. You need some time to reevaluate your friendship and figure out where you want to put her in your life. Don't disillusion yourself with hopes that it will get better. It can get better for you only if you change your own perspective and put her in her proper place in your life, which might not mean front and center. Accept that the spouse usually does come first in a person's life. You decide what your friendship is worth as it is.

Answer 3

if u know she will turn her back agin dont even try to be frineds with her because if u do then you'll find out that she was just a waste of time. and that is kinda shalow that she didnt tell you about her and your brother. and if she says she's changed usally she hasnt you just need some time apart
(give me thumbs up if u think this is good advise please)

Answer 4

Follow your gut. Obviously she is going to keep messing with you, just like she has. Or you could keep a sort of distant relationship. Kind of like friends but not going out of your way.

Answer 5

if u rly dont want 2 be frends with her thn dont, u can still be aquaintances. u cant get into a fite over that, can u?

Answer 6

Chill out and relax and take it one day at a time. What will be, will be.

Answer 7

I think you should leave them alone and find new friends.
just try to be cool with her do it for your brother if you care.

take care

Answer 8

DO YOU THINK MAYBE SHE FEELS. THAT BECAUSE SHE WITH YOUR BROTHER:THAT SHE CAN'T TELL YOU THINK'S ABOUT HERSELF ANYMORE BECAUSE YOU MIGHT TELL YOUR BROTHER LITTLE SCREAT'S you both had.BUT TRUE FRIENDS STICK BY each Other NO MATTER WHAT

Answer 9

first i would not have got mad because that is a bfriend and g freind so then just find say you are if you are because if you wanna be her freind say sorry

Answer 10

Find a new best friend, I am not joking...I have been there, done that...good luck!