I have this friend whom ive known many years..Im 24 now but when i was 19 i met this guy he was 16..so with that said I NEVER SAW HIM AS A POSSIBLE LOVE INTEREST!. he was a cool kid and stuff..as soon as he turned 18 he ended up marrying a girl that i hung out with..even after their marriage he would come to my house and look for me..I NEVER TALKED TO HIM!.i am now 24 this guy is 21 years old owns his own home has his own business.in june he showed up at my house...we started talking i found out he seperated from the girl after a year. weve been hanging out ever since. just recently it turned sexual. he has now baught me a cell phone fixed my car hes done so many thing for me. were together 24/7..the thing is that lastnight we went to the movies went home did our thing!.@ 3 am he calls me all mad that his ex is lying to him that he thinks shes seeing some1..i dont know what to think! i didnt say anything because WE R JUST FRIENDS!. what do i do???
2006-09-29 10:12:35 · 17 answers · asked by He's my Sunshine 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sorry, girl, he is using you--but not completely. He obviously likes you, so he's not a total fraud. But on the other side, guys can get so very territorial. He may have an ex-wife, but in the back of his head, she is still his, so how dare she go out with someone else.
Keep it just friends and not so close friends, and he won't have to feel he's got some claim or power over you too. If he thinks he does, remind him of how he got ticked off about his ex seeing someone--obviously he's still attached to her, so he can't be attached to her and attached to you. Ask him to back off from you and keep your distance until the dust settles. But, I bet if you make him your lover, he won't let go even if he does settle with someone else. I may be wrong, but I think he's already thinking you are part of his territory.
2006-09-29 10:23:09 · answer #1 · answered by Rabbit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your both confussed. I'm sorry to say but if you are with each other 24/7 and having sex then you are more than just friends, but if he still has feelings for his ex than you need to remind him that he is doing what he thinks she is doing. And that seeing another person. This guy seems really messed up in the head he's with you but doesn't want his ex to be with anyone else. That's a man for ya. Just be careful and make sure he knows that your just friends and tell him to get a divorce.
2006-09-29 17:18:18 · answer #2 · answered by Kimberly S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your just friends??? I don't think you really see this as a just friends relationship. If you did you wouldn't be asking this question. You want a relationship with this guy and things have kind of just happened and you made some assumptions in your head that haven't turned out quite right. You need to sit him down and talk to him. Ask him what is going on and let him know how you feel and what you are looking for. Come on why should he be upset that she is seeing someone when he is seeing you unless he is just using you. If that isn't the case then he needs to explain what is going on and what the plan is for the future.
2006-09-29 17:17:02 · answer #3 · answered by rkrell 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't know sounds like a Brazilian series.It sounds sexual and .horny.One man and two woman .And man is able to come your house and have sex with you and due this he is still in relationship with his ex .You can get a sexually transmitted disease .Have you ever thought about this . Why are you trying to find a right relationship.What s wrong with you . You should get a boyfriend and he should be only your boyfriend during your relationship . Do you love being used as a sexual object. Dont get me wrong I am just trying to show the right points of the condition you are in.
2006-09-29 18:58:24 · answer #4 · answered by xeibeg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds a bit obsessive from his end. A bit immature too. And - worst of all - controlling.
If it would be me I would try to go out of his way - forever. Just not hang out anymore. You could tell him that you understand your relationship as pure friendship and not as a love interest . But it got too close lately and you do not want to see him anymore regularly.
and then...you fade the connection with him out, slowly but surely.
He may use you or he may have an interest in you or both. In either case - this is a guy to stay away from. Tells me my guts.
2006-09-29 17:20:32 · answer #5 · answered by spaceskating_girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're in the middle of a rebound situation honey, CUT IT OFF!
He loves her and he wants her, but he knows you and you keep him occupied in the meantime. If given the chance, he's going back and you'll be left alone, so don't get too attached.
BTW, how is it that you didn't know they were separated, I thought he married your friend??
2006-09-29 17:21:03 · answer #6 · answered by Cinderella 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right now, your just his FB (**** Buddy). Even, though he's doing all of these nice things. You have become his investment. And, its obvious that he isn't over his ex. So, I would just play it cool and don't get your feelings all caught up. By the way, yes, he is using you.
2006-09-29 17:18:45 · answer #7 · answered by loves2dream2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you are friends with benefits or bf gf? You may want to get that answered. He sounds like he still has feelings for the ex, so guard your heart.
2006-09-29 17:18:15 · answer #8 · answered by teulonbranchlibrary 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him in your mind and heart that your not just friends and if his ex seeing other people bothers him so much then he needs to stop coming around, because heas already taken that next step with you sexually and emotionally.
2006-09-29 17:17:35 · answer #9 · answered by 4mika 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he really likes you but hasn't severed the connection with the ex. Watch out for this guy.
2006-09-29 17:16:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋