well
it all started when my brother changed his religion
and as my mother is very strict about that
so things werent so good between him and her
on the other hand my father dont mind that much
as my brother isnt young
and he fell in love with a middle easter girl
and they are getting married on october in Egypt
i am German
so my mother and my sister are totally against this marriage
but me
its really fine by me
hey guys its my brother
so my mother said if i went to his wedding
i am no longer her son
and if i didnt go
my brother will be totally alone
on the most important day in his life
so should i go and face whatever might happen
after that
or what
and in case i went my younger brother
made me promise to take him
so its all a mess
what should i do
2006-09-29 10:07:51 · 18 answers · asked by alexandre 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Your mother may make threats, but ultimately I don't think she will disown you for long. Go and support your brother. You know your mom is wrong and you need to do the right thing and stick to your beliefs. Your a man now, not your mothers child.
2006-09-29 10:11:49 · answer #1 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go man.
Imagine you brother, being alone as a bridegroom with strangers. A wedding day is supposed to be a very happy and important day.
How would your brother feel to stand with middle easterners and to know that there isn't a single person in his family to attend.
He will feel left out. Go.
My mother also says that but I still do it and she doesn't talk to me for three days but then she talks.
A mother will never abandon a child but a child will abandon the mother.
I can guarantee that once your brother is married and has a child with the middle eastern girl and if they come visit your mother, She will even forgive your brother.
Marriage is someones own will. You can't force someone to be in a religion.
Go. Think about your brother staying alone. He only married the girl he loves. Your mother will forgive you
2006-09-29 10:19:53 · answer #2 · answered by Mr Business 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully your mom will see what a stand up person you are by going anyhow. I think you should go regardless. One thing I do know is that blood is thicker than water and religion preferences should not stop you from loving and supporting your children and family. I am sorry to say this but your family has some issues and Mom should know better. If mom disowns you she probably didnt treat you right from birth, I am not being mean so please dont take it that way I am just being honest. Tell mom you are going well before you go and analyze her answer and you will do the right thing.
2006-09-29 10:19:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go. Your mother made her decision - she has to live with it...but her decision should not be yours..and she should not expect that nor should she be trying to "control" everyone including you by what she wants. That's shameful...Try not to argue with her - but do what is right - and that is being there for your brother. She won't REALLY cut you out of her life...any mother like that?...who would do a thing like that? Isn't much of a mother..sorry. BUT...I think she is just being emotional (and mamas are) ..and disappointed right now...but don't let her drama keep you from doing the right thing by your brother.
Good luck to you (and to your brother)..and yes, if your younger brother is over the age of 18 - take him with you - if he is not...then don't..he's still under your parent's authority.
2006-09-29 10:14:01 · answer #4 · answered by svmainus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it appears like his kin is exceptionally marvelous and might understand that issues are complicated for you. i might say communicate over along with his mothers and fathers approximately it and ask what they think of approximately having a small kin party with in simple terms instantaneous kin when you elope- they'd in all likelihood enable you to paintings out the thank you to announce the union to something of the kin. according to probability you will desire to establish mini photograph albums of the elopement and deliver them out as formal bulletins which you're actually husband and spouse (hire an rather solid photographer and spend a chunck on getting like little sure books in simple terms reason you are able to discover the money for to b/c you're actually not throwing a great shin-dig :op)- with a suitable little imprecise blurb some magnificent ceremony blessed by potential of your mothers and fathers- then no person is often occurring with the reason yet they understand that it became into on the up and up so which you will desire to communicate (each and every physique is going to stick on your attitudes and his determine's attitudes approximately it, so if those 2 communities are ok then no person is going to make lots of a fuss approximately it) haha- besides, even though you do emphasize that they are considerable to you the two yet in simple terms such as you suggested it would be very uncomfortable so which you are able to would desire to work out so few human beings on "your ingredient" as others reported, it is your day and you will desire to ideally do exactly what you 2 prefer to yet you're good.... you do not prefer to get off on the incorrect foot- no sense ruining a life time of relationships for a unmarried day. solid success and congrats!
2016-10-15 08:42:59 · answer #5 · answered by wishon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother is trying to manipulate both of you by using threats. Not a nice thing to do. It's a decision you have to make on your own. If you care for your brother, then go.
2006-09-29 10:11:34 · answer #6 · answered by Red 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should go!
Your mom shouldn't threaten you, and if she does, tell her how much that hurts you - but you want to support your brother.
No one should have to get married without family around them. This feud is between your mom and your brother. So go, be supportive and don't worry about your mom.
2006-09-29 10:12:51 · answer #7 · answered by jt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that if your fine with the marriage then you should go your brother could use the support and as for your mom its wrong of her to tell you that she will disown you if you go its your brother i would go . hope this helps . good luck
2006-09-29 12:03:01 · answer #8 · answered by kristy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice to you is to go and think of it this way love is not prejudice!! This relationship of your brothers is in a way gods will. ….your mother Disowning your brother is denying One of gods gifts and in doing the same to you for giving your support to your brother. …
2006-09-29 10:13:49 · answer #9 · answered by 4mika 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to do what your heart tells you...but be prepared for any consequences that may result.
You shouldn't feel you have to live your life for anyone but you...just as (apparently) your brother does not.
Congrats to him, btw.
2006-09-29 10:10:54 · answer #10 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋