i've always been really girly. i love my long hair, and clothes, the only thing that sucks is that EVERYONE thinks i'm straight. i think i'm kinda pretty so people don't even ask me if i'm single they just assume i'm married to a man. sometimes i think it would be so much easier to just chop off my hair then people would kind of know or assume. but it's not me, and short hair doesn't look as great one me, i don't know i just feel more beautiful with long flowy hair. should i just wear hella rainbows??? what should i dooooooo
2006-09-29 10:07:46 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
ok maybe i should have asked this differently. i have a gf so it's not like i'm looking for anyone. but to all the ladies do u know what i mean when i say that all the guys think i'm straight and hit up on me..
2006-09-29 10:16:16 · update #1
Keep your hair the way that you like it. I'm sure your girlfriend thinks you are beautiful the way you are. Take it as a compliment that guys think you are beautiful enough to crack onto, but then revel in telling them you have a girlfriend... They'll get their jollies tonight, and you can go home and know that you are so beautiful that you can score a hot partner and guys still want you... As for them thinking you are married to a man... Take every opportunity to drop "wife" "girlfriend" or "female partner" into the conversation... You'll go away feeling heaps better!!!
2006-09-29 14:00:15 · answer #1 · answered by larney_0000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say tell the guys you're taken, and let that be enough (depending on environment, it could be dangerous to tell them more than that). I don't really advocate chopping off all your hair when you LOVE your hair. If you felt it was a statement you wanted to make, and that you were being yourself, it's always your decision. Hella rainbows, some pride shirts etc.... depending on what you're going for, there's REALLY blunt t-shirt slogans, or very subtle rainbow jewelry. Don't know if any of that answered your question.
2006-09-29 19:19:18 · answer #2 · answered by Atropis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate that myself, being thought of as married to a man, I have long hair, too, I am not your average lesbian, if you will, though I love women. I have guys saying stuff to me alot of times, I am not interested, been there and done that. I wear a rainbow necklace and my rainbow badge holder at work. Sometimes I have a rainbox hat that I like to wear. Now trying to rub it in anyone's face, but I am not looking for a man, either. I am just being me. Don't cut your hair, though, just be yourself. Don't worry about what others think of you as long as you are a good person, who cares? Right? Peace.
2006-09-30 04:37:30 · answer #3 · answered by spiritcavegrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not to be mean but come on. If men still approach you they are the one's who are exhibiting straightness. You are an attractive girl they are behaving rather naturally. It makes me so sick how people who have chosen to be gay, it's like they wish the world would go away. I mean if you are you are. Keep all things fem and be lucky anyone is saying anything at all. So many people both straight or gay have a serious problem giving compliments, showing emotions, or just merely speaking. Treasure your time as a girl. If a guy comes up be cool about it....
2006-09-29 18:35:08 · answer #4 · answered by rosezealous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I am also a 22 yo lesbian living in Australia and understand how you feel. I am not the prettiest girl but I am also not the uggliest either. I like to dress nicely and show my features for all to see but if those whom I dont know "see me as straight with a man" that is fine with me because I dont know them anyway. Many of my friends know my ways, and it does not stop any of them from associating with me. Here in Australia where I live, and probably similar to where you live, we have a word which says "NO", so if a male was to ask you out, use the word politely with "thanks" and still be happy. Dont cut your hair, if you wear it long, keep it that way. It is you who needs to feel happy, not the others. Wear the clothes which you like also, no need to show, but be proud whatever you wear. Good luck and if you have not come out of the closet, consider doing so and being proud.
2006-09-29 17:33:02 · answer #5 · answered by charise 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No do not cut your hair-whats with this that people think all lesbians have short hair.My current g/f cut her hair when she got with me cause' she thought that was what you were supposed to do! I think a person should just be theirselves,sure if you want short hair then cut it-but you say you love your long hair,so why cut it! Men just assume all girls adore men,alot of guys even think they can change a lesbian-lol be for real! If you are in a relationship then why do you care if people think you are or not?
Girl just be yourself-live life and enjoy it!!
2006-09-29 11:15:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't worry about assumptions. You can be as girly as you like. So what if guys hit on you. Do you think hot gay guys are offended by attractive females hitting on them. HECK NO! I'm not gonna wear a rainbow or a dress! I'm who I am and the people who matter to me know it and don't need me to change... so I certainly wouldn't change for strangers!
Hope you found an awesome outfit for your concert and some kick'n bad A$S shoes!
2006-10-01 11:35:48 · answer #7 · answered by prada guy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
secretღ,
You could always wear the blue jeans and the wifebeater t-shirt. Let your hair stay like it is, it's cool. You know. you could even do the pack of smokes thing in the sleeve. lol
How about this look:
Wear the jeans and have a "I'm Really a Lesbian" on the front of the T-shirt. LOL!
2006-09-29 10:15:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay cool and stay as you are...I love your hair and I think you are more than pretty. Guys hitting on you is inevitable, you and I both know it. Women hit on me all the time, I just play as if I don't notice. I suppose it is harder for women than for men, but I would think a "I don't think so" would fill the bill...and of course, there will always be the clods who think they are god's gift to tell you what you are missing. I would be tempted to say, "with that wee wee..you have to be kidding..." Good luck
2006-09-29 10:15:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have this problem, I call it IBS (Invisible Boyfriend Syndrome). People see me, and they see this imaginary man I must be connected to standing beside me. Buy yourself a labrys pendant. It's more subtle than a rainbow, and if you look hard enough, you can find some really elegant designs.
2006-09-29 10:12:19 · answer #10 · answered by lcraesharbor 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋